hiya all, the reason I ask is because I have been good friends with my friend since we met at nursery school, some 38 years ago.
Over the years she's been the one telling me what she's bought, where she is going on holiday etc etc & I have been the pauper so to speak.
3 years ago I received my inheritance, quite a substantial sum of money. Obviously due to this and other financial changes for the better I suppose you could say I live quite a comfortable life when compared to what I had before. I consider myself to be very lucky.
Recently it has come to my attention that I do believe my good friend is jealous. To be fair she had worked very hard in her career but still seems to be struggling for ways to make ends meet. I have always been very careful with money, whereas my friend was always one for credit / store cards ect.
Anyway I just wondered if anyone else had been begrudged a better standard of living. I'm finding it kinda difficult that someone who I think alot about should be envious of my easier life, and let me just say I have never rubbed anything in her face. If anything, I always try to underplay my easier life. I watched her for years buying things, going on foreighn holidays etc ... it just seems now the tables are turned she has a problem with it.
I wonder ... would I still be ok for her if I was poor .... but if that's the case, is she really a friend ?
It's really upset me .... any advice / thoughts would be very welcome ... thankyou
Over the years she's been the one telling me what she's bought, where she is going on holiday etc etc & I have been the pauper so to speak.
3 years ago I received my inheritance, quite a substantial sum of money. Obviously due to this and other financial changes for the better I suppose you could say I live quite a comfortable life when compared to what I had before. I consider myself to be very lucky.
Recently it has come to my attention that I do believe my good friend is jealous. To be fair she had worked very hard in her career but still seems to be struggling for ways to make ends meet. I have always been very careful with money, whereas my friend was always one for credit / store cards ect.
Anyway I just wondered if anyone else had been begrudged a better standard of living. I'm finding it kinda difficult that someone who I think alot about should be envious of my easier life, and let me just say I have never rubbed anything in her face. If anything, I always try to underplay my easier life. I watched her for years buying things, going on foreighn holidays etc ... it just seems now the tables are turned she has a problem with it.
I wonder ... would I still be ok for her if I was poor .... but if that's the case, is she really a friend ?
It's really upset me .... any advice / thoughts would be very welcome ... thankyou
I totally agree with DID, but like she says, some people think that the world (and others) owe them a living. How many times do you hear people moaning, or even taking people to court over the content of someone's will. I don't believe anyone has the right to expect an inheritance, but it is lovely when it happens. So, you enjoy what you have, and if your friend is a real friend, then it won't make one iota of difference to her.
You are so much better with words than i am, I agree with every word you said 
... and this is the woman who most friends descibe as mother earth ... well, certainly not in my case!
