Comrade...I've heard of a few, personally....it's a mine field IMHO, some people just seem to want to re-connect with someone from their past where they imagined a happier place...I don't really know. I have to remind myself that who I am with is who I was meant to be with...he can be a pain the arse, but he is kind and loyal...so I am kind and loyal to him. It also helps that I can't imagine a better father to my children...I'm glad that you have moved on and appear so gracious..I wish you happiness 

Yes, I think it can make it easier to glance other fields where the grass might look a little greener. Thank you again Suzybean.

Comrade ... am glad you to hear you sounding so much better....


& to answer your question...  I haven't heard of many of these things happening through facebook..   But for the 4 or 5 years that Friends Reunited was at its busiest it was so common!

In fact, most of my friends & their partners all felt that searching around Friends Reunited & contacting members of the opposite sex was pretty much tantamount to sticking an advert on Adultfriendfinder  (naughty "lets meet up and have sex site) or similar!

Hubby & I met online... in a chat room.   So we were already aware of how things can start when you chat online... consequently we have always had a pact not to chat in chatrooms, msn etc since we married.   This has recently been relaxed a bit cos my involvement with people from this forum starting to become more than forum posting... what with facebook & the community feel that is here! 


So....  now that you are out of the woods so to speak...   are you ready to dip your toe in the water again?

lots of "nice" sites out there.... all involved with helping peeps of all ages meet people!

Aww Comrade, what a bummer, remember you were feeling really unhappy, is that why? Hope things improve for you

BTW Ditty, Suzy, spoke to the rugger bugger for over 3 hours this afternoon.....he has a verrrry verrrry  verrrry sexy voice Worked out that I know a no.of people he knows 'up here' (typical old boy public school network!).....To be continued

Soops Exciting!!!!!    


we really are in need of a "singletons dating gossip" fred!

OMG!!! Sooops...I'm going to look for a new hat (well ok, a fascinater) 

Yes! Found her too! Alas! It is better that I do not contact her though.

I'm not technically 'single' as such Ditty, (but nor am I married or living with anyone,) Rugger bugger just texted....he's keen, v keen! Mmmm, (maybe too keen????)

Mmmmm, first I've got to lose about 3 stone!!!

Right off to friends to do girlie gossip about rugger bugger and see what she thinks of him on fb etc. Laters

Suzy's ex sounds like Hugh Grant to me.

Oooo....I was just about to go out...NOPE...he must be at least 15 years older than me...

I did look up a couple of school bfs but haven't bothered with anyone more recent.

Great thread
Loving all the stories! I've found the" love of my life" when I was 17's daughter!! She is the same age as my son and looks the spitting image of him!! Freaked me out!

That is she is the spitting image of her father not of my son

Yeah, and I think I have found one but after it ended he may have got the impression, somehow, i don't know, that I was slightly, maybe, a bit of a bunny boiler and so it's probably best left alone lol

I think you could be right LLF 



Although... you could always time how long it takes for him to ramp up his account securities, lock down his profile & block you! 

There must be a formula to convert the time it takes into the actual fear he has of you!

Friend and I been fb stalking all night  Unbelievable how many people have no privacy settings!

LOL!

hee hee.....

I found my ex on Friends Reunited, once.

He was single and running a slug farm.

I found closure.

Did Joe Pasquale ever do Hollywood?

Before meeting hubby I had quite a few bf's but there were only 3 where it got very close to engagement. Two I eventually realised weren't right for me, the other I really thought he was the one, we worked together and I was completely drawn to him but for such a long time he never noticed me, but then he did and I was blissfully happy to spend time with him, we had so much in common and talked of marriage which I just assumed would happen. Then suddenly after about a year he disappeared almost overnight, literally disappeared, from work, from his home address, I tried so hard for ages to find him but couldn't. I was beside myself with almost like grieving for a very long time not knowing what happened, I never found out what happened. Because of this thread I put his name in FB search, but nothing. I'm glad I met hubby and we've been together for a long time, he's so right for me, but I'll always wonder what happened to the one that disappeared

You do know that I'll sus it,eventually,dontcha princess?

YR, tell us his name..bet one of us could find him

Right Suze. ya buga,,buga, buga..,My 'rugga bugga' went to LSE...my guess is that you either went there,or Oxbridge, or maybe SOAS?.....or at a push maybe Durham ???...But then again, other than Oxford/Cambridge I'm not getting the 'lovey' conection??? grrrrr

Bloody 100 per cent right GJ, your wife is your best friend, you'll never get better than that

Croc is the person you want for that!   I'd put money on it she could find him!

She is like a virtual bloodhound!    Is a nice way of course! 


Seriously though YR - that would do my head in....   that is one of those things you really do need closure on!   You say he "disappeared"...   did he put his affairs in order...  packed, took his stuff.. kinda thing?

Glad you found your hubby too xx

There are two ex's of mine I periodically search for on the interweb.

One was not so much a boyfriend as the boy on our street that we hung around with!  I had my first snog with him.... round the back of the Barratt Showhouse!    Neither him nor his little brother are findable on Facebook or Friends Reunited, or Google etc.   

The other one was a kinda boyfriend... & considering his dad is in "the biz" should have been easy to track down.  But he too has his online presence nailed down.   All I can find is that he worked on the set of Last of the Summer Wine!

I did check for my very first boyfriend when I joined FB out of curiosity as I have not seen him for nearly 30 years and he has a fairly uncommon last name, I found him and was rather surprised to say the least.  When I knew him he had gorgeous brown slightly curly hair, he is now completely bald and has put on loads of weight, still married to the same person and lives in the same place he moved to when they got married.  The pictures I found of him on FB sort of destroyed the illusion that he would be the same somehow.   He was gorgeous when I was 13 though!!  Sometimes it's best just to have the memories (and photos from then!!)

I've never thought about looking for an ex....just not bothered...there was a reason that they were exes and they can stay gone as far as I'm concerned

The guy who I had my first snog with is the brother of my GP so I ask about him from time to time, he lives up in Scotland...so now I'm off to fb to have a nosey at what he looks like these days!
EDIT after looking, EEK definitely wouldn't snog him now, and what is he wearing in his profile pic...Mr Tucky-in  (His brother on the other hand, is rather delicious)

By jove I think I've got it Sheeet, he is v good looking mind Suze

Has Mrs Joe been twisting your arm?

and what news of the rugga bugga soops?

If I pm you and I've got it right will you tell me?

might

Lots! Several emails, texts and then fb chat whilst he was supposed to be revising in the library, (he's wanting a change of direction, so is studying pt to be a lawyer)