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pigeonpie

I hate my place of work so much, not my job. I am a care-assistant and I work hard to look after emi residents. Now the deputy matron;s daughter has started, lazy bitch. She's doing false nails on the side, and her and a younger member of staff spray tan each other, then pick and choose what time to do rounds.
These poor folk need looking after, alot of us have put in complaints and just don't know where to turn next!

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pigeonpieMember

I forgot to add, I been employed at this place for seven and half years. I have nightmares on my nights off cannot relax, thinking about what is going on, and I just want to leave.

8/3/094:01 PM

Former Member

Local authority/Private?

8/3/094:01 PM

Senora ReyesMember 10 years

Not nice when work is drag like that. Start looking around for something and be positive about getting out of there into somewhere better with nicer people.

8/3/094:03 PM

ShizzlexMember

can't you call in social services or whoever the governing body is ?

is it old folks you look after?

8/3/094:03 PM

Soozy WooMember

As Erinp said ......go straight to the top .....either the owners or local authority .....or if you wanna be really sneaky leak it to the local rag (annonymously of course).

8/3/094:04 PM

Dame_Ann_AverageMember VIP10 years

I think all of you that have complained need to get together and make a detailed complaint of the inccidents that you have mentioned and take it higher. I know it's got to be worrying for you, but the more of you that make a stand the more you should be listened too.

8/3/094:05 PM

cupMember

Thats awful its nice you are so genuinely concerned for the people you look after someone esles family members

Thankgod their is good people like you in that line of work

Go to higher authority if you can it must be bad to have you so worried

8/3/094:06 PM

Yogi19Member 10 years

Could you make an anonymous call to the Care Commission?

8/3/094:07 PM

pigeonpieMember

quote:
Originally posted by erinp:
Local authority/Private?

It's private and after a few complaints last year was investigated for several weeks, which included a bed ban, meaning no new residents. Since then it's just getting worse. So I'm going to call some of the neighbouring homes for vacancies even if it means just banking! Trouble the majority of us want to leave,

8/3/094:13 PM

MargueritaMember

My sister in law is a care worker and she is really put on even on her days off she gets phone calls asking her to come in and she does were others just say no ,as other posters have said above perhaps you could have a word as how you feel ,you have seven and a half years behind you that should stand you in good stead wish you the very best of luck

8/3/094:15 PM

shar69Member

Speaking from personal experience. If you don't think you are going to be able to do anything to change the situation, look for another job and get out as soon as possible. I stayed at a company for 15 years and had the attitude that 'I would not be beaten'. My mental health has suffered and my confidence was at rock bottom. I was made redundant(sp) and on reflection I should have left the company many years ago. I suffer bouts of depression, have panic attacks and will not leave the house alone. Please don't make the same mistakes I made. Sometimes its better to just leave them to it and get a job elsewhere.

8/3/094:15 PM

pigeonpieMember

I cry every single day about my job, all I can say is it cannot be anyworse elsewhere.

8/3/094:15 PM

pigeonpieMember

quote:
Originally posted by shar69:
Speaking from personal experience. If you don't think you are going to be able to do anything to change the situation, look for another job and get out as soon as possible. I stayed at a company for 15 years and had the attitude that 'I would not be beaten'. My mental health has suffered and my confidence was at rock bottom. I was made redundant(sp) and on reflection I should have left the company many years ago. I suffer bouts of depression, have panic attacks and will not leave the house alone. Please don't make the same mistakes I made. Sometimes its better to just leave them to it and get a job elsewhere.

That's me exactly,sometimes I just don't want to go out at all, for days and days, my hubby is getting so annoyed with me. I'm going to take your advice thankyou.

8/3/094:18 PM

Soozy WooMember

quote:
Originally posted by pigeonpie:
quote:
Originally posted by shar69:
Speaking from personal experience. If you don't think you are going to be able to do anything to change the situation, look for another job and get out as soon as possible. I stayed at a company for 15 years and had the attitude that 'I would not be beaten'. My mental health has suffered and my confidence was at rock bottom. I was made redundant(sp) and on reflection I should have left the company many years ago. I suffer bouts of depression, have panic attacks and will not leave the house alone. Please don't make the same mistakes I made. Sometimes its better to just leave them to it and get a job elsewhere.

That's me exactly,sometimes I just don't want to go out at all, for days and days, my hubby is getting so annoyed with me. I'm going to take your advice thankyou.

you really and truly need to get out of there if it's making you cry every day. I know jobs aren't easy to come by but I thought the caring industry was crying ot (I may be wrong) whatever ......get out ....once you've got the reference you need write a detailed letter describing the areas of concern and saying exactly why you left.

Honestly ......no job is worth losing your mind/health over.

8/3/094:22 PM

Queen of the High TeasMember

8/3/094:25 PM

♥PinkBabe1966♥The Angel under the tree!Member

Get yourself a reference and get out of the job double quick! You will make yourself ill if you carry on there (I speak from personal experience). If you have to go onto a bank somewhere else or go temping,you will soon find another job, especially in the type of job you do.

Bless you and good luck to you, let us know how it goes

8/3/094:30 PM

shar69Member

quote:
Originally posted by pigeonpie:
I cry every single day about my job, all I can say is it cannot be anyworse elsewhere.

Oh please please get out as soon as you can. It's obvious that you care very much for the people you look after, but if you don't do whats best for you, you could get to a place where you can barely look after yourself let alone others. Once your out and have regained your mental strength, fight from the outside.

8/3/094:33 PM

pigeonpieMember

quote:
Originally posted by Soozy woo:
quote:
Originally posted by pigeonpie:
quote:
Originally posted by shar69:
Speaking from personal experience. If you don't think you are going to be able to do anything to change the situation, look for another job and get out as soon as possible. I stayed at a company for 15 years and had the attitude that 'I would not be beaten'. My mental health has suffered and my confidence was at rock bottom. I was made redundant(sp) and on reflection I should have left the company many years ago. I suffer bouts of depression, have panic attacks and will not leave the house alone. Please don't make the same mistakes I made. Sometimes its better to just leave them to it and get a job elsewhere.

That's me exactly,sometimes I just don't want to go out at all, for days and days, my hubby is getting so annoyed with me. I'm going to take your advice thankyou.

you really and truly need to get out of there if it's making you cry every day. I know jobs aren't easy to come by but I thought the caring industry was crying ot (I may be wrong) whatever ......get out ....once you've got the reference you need write a detailed letter describing the areas of concern and saying exactly why you left.

Honestly ......no job is worth losing your mind/health over.

Honestly, since I've been there I've had a miscarriage, and suffered depression, and I work hard.
Maybe I take things too seriously?
I have nightmares about the place. I've just had a week off and it's been wasted on anxiety.

8/3/094:35 PM

pigeonpieMember

Many thanks to everyone that replied, it's good to share,

I don't really get my husband invloved, so I bite my tongue all the time, but as another colleague of mine called tonight, who is unhappy so it's been on mind.

8/3/094:43 PM

Senora ReyesMember 10 years

quote:
Originally posted by pigeonpie:
Many thanks to everyone that replied, it's good to share, I don't really get my husband invloved, so I bite my tongue all the time, but as another colleague of mine called tonight, who is unhappy so it's been on mind.

Good luck with everything.

8/3/094:47 PM

shar69Member

quote:
Originally posted by pigeonpie:
Many thanks to everyone that replied, it's good to share, I don't really get my husband invloved, so I bite my tongue all the time, but as another colleague of mine called tonight, who is unhappy so it's been on mind.

Good luck, keep us updated.

8/3/094:47 PM

Soozy WooMember

quote:
Originally posted by pigeonpie:
Many thanks to everyone that replied, it's good to share, I don't really get my husband invloved, so I bite my tongue all the time, but as another colleague of mine called tonight, who is unhappy so it's been on mind.

call an agency first thing tomorrow ......see what's on offer and if it looks okayish .........get your notice in. You could be out of there in four weeks ........how does that sound? Great I bet ..........just do it.

8/3/094:50 PM

Former Member

quote:
Originally posted by pigeonpie:
quote:
Originally posted by Soozy woo:
quote:
Originally posted by pigeonpie:
quote:
Originally posted by shar69:
Speaking from personal experience. If you don't think you are going to be able to do anything to change the situation, look for another job and get out as soon as possible. I stayed at a company for 15 years and had the attitude that 'I would not be beaten'. My mental health has suffered and my confidence was at rock bottom. I was made redundant(sp) and on reflection I should have left the company many years ago. I suffer bouts of depression, have panic attacks and will not leave the house alone. Please don't make the same mistakes I made. Sometimes its better to just leave them to it and get a job elsewhere.

That's me exactly,sometimes I just don't want to go out at all, for days and days, my hubby is getting so annoyed with me. I'm going to take your advice thankyou.

you really and truly need to get out of there if it's making you cry every day. I know jobs aren't easy to come by but I thought the caring industry was crying ot (I may be wrong) whatever ......get out ....once you've got the reference you need write a detailed letter describing the areas of concern and saying exactly why you left.

Honestly ......no job is worth losing your mind/health over.

Honestly, since I've been there I've had a miscarriage, and suffered depression, and I work hard.
Maybe I take things too seriously?
I have nightmares about the place. I've just had a week off and it's been wasted on anxiety.

Oh no. Very sorry you've had such a terrible time PigeonPie

Theres a new body called the Care Quality Commission - not sure how helpful they'd be in your situation. They might be a listening ear though or point you in the right direction?

Take care of yourself - you deserve a lot better than this

8/3/094:55 PM

Former Member

Heres a link if its any use PigeonPie:

Care Quality Commission

8/3/095:02 PM

pigeonpieMember

quote:
Originally posted by nosey rosie:
quote:
Originally posted by pigeonpie:
quote:
Originally posted by Soozy woo:
quote:
Originally posted by pigeonpie:
quote:
Originally posted by shar69:
Speaking from personal experience. If you don't think you are going to be able to do anything to change the situation, look for another job and get out as soon as possible. I stayed at a company for 15 years and had the attitude that 'I would not be beaten'. My mental health has suffered and my confidence was at rock bottom. I was made redundant(sp) and on reflection I should have left the company many years ago. I suffer bouts of depression, have panic attacks and will not leave the house alone. Please don't make the same mistakes I made. Sometimes its better to just leave them to it and get a job elsewhere.

That's me exactly,sometimes I just don't want to go out at all, for days and days, my hubby is getting so annoyed with me. I'm going to take your advice thankyou.

you really and truly need to get out of there if it's making you cry every day. I know jobs aren't easy to come by but I thought the caring industry was crying ot (I may be wrong) whatever ......get out ....once you've got the reference you need write a detailed letter describing the areas of concern and saying exactly why you left.

Honestly ......no job is worth losing your mind/health over.

Honestly, since I've been there I've had a miscarriage, and suffered depression, and I work hard.
Maybe I take things too seriously?
I have nightmares about the place. I've just had a week off and it's been wasted on anxiety.

Oh no. Very sorry you've had such a terrible time PigeonPie

Theres a new body called the Care Quality Commission - not sure how helpful they'd be in your situation. They might be a listening ear though or point you in the right direction?

Take care of yourself - you deserve a lot better than this .

Thanks I've stopped crying now, and I am going to bed now its the only peace I get as long as I don't get nightmares.

8/3/095:07 PM

SydMember 10 years

quote:
Originally posted by pigeonpie:
Many thanks to everyone that replied, it's good to share, I don't really get my husband invloved, so I bite my tongue all the time, but as another colleague of mine called tonight, who is unhappy so it's been on mind.

I know the feeling of keeping it all in...no job is worth it...

8/3/095:09 PM

Former Member

quote:
Originally posted by pigeonpie:

Thanks I've stopped crying now, and I am going to bed now its the only peace I get as long as I don't get nightmares.

Goodnight and take care of yourself Pigeonpie hun. Please keep us updated on the situation. People like you should be really valued!!!

8/3/095:25 PM

Little Miss SpursMember

Im a carer. I dont work in a home (tho I used to many years ago, before I had my kids and we had some right arses there, who behaved like they owned the place and did bugger all!!!)I go to clients in their own homes or in residential places, that arent controlled by a matron etc. What about informing the top dogs annonymously? If youre that worried and dont want repercussions, thats what Id do.

8/4/0912:07 AM

jeanojMember

Awww Pigeon that is awful! apart from the dislike of the job, are the older people getting proper care? I would leak the whole thing to the local press - they won't use your name if you request them not to. Papers are often the best place to get changes made. I would also voice your concerns to the Inspectorate of Residential homes - they have an obligation to investigate. They might make an unannounced visit.

8/4/091:16 AM

Dobby1Member

I take my hat off to all you carers. I think you do a thankless task. You will be snapped up by either another care home or a home care agency. Experienced carers are like gold-dust.

(I live on the other side of this coin btw.)

8/4/091:43 AM

fookatMember

definitely sign up with agencies - I got my last 3 jobs with them.

You cant keep on crying everyday

And I would speak to your husband so he can support you.

8/4/093:44 AM

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