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One of my German friends lost his Dad at the same time as mine. I was telling him that my Mum kept Dad's ashes for a few months and then we distributed them through the lower Wensleydale and Coverdale areas.
He was astounded! In Germany they never have possession. The state keep the ashes and then they are buried. The Germans are unable to scatter them in favourite predetermined areas. His dad's ashes are buried in an approved ten metre squared plot, but they don't know exactly where. I was able to out some flowers on the plot yesterday.

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My husband's ashes are scattered in our beautiful garden, which he loved.  It gives me comfort to look out of my window and see the beautiful shrub which he loved to look at where his ashes were scattered.  Hopefully my ashes will be scattered there too one day.  I know it's only the body which is left and the spirit has moved on by then but it's still vital, I feel, that we can honour our loved ones after their death in the way that we choose.

squiggle

I'm surprised at that GJ

 

Personally I don't think the 'catholic disapproval' of cremation from my childhood will ever leave me.  I know Catholics are allowed to be cremated these days but I think we still prefer burial over cremation (except where it's cheaper to cremate).  I have my plot already but am disappointed that burials in the UK are on top of each other rather than the Irish side-by-side.  I also dislike that we can't put any ornate edgings around as most modern cemeteries are 'lawn' ones so they have to be free to cut the grass (and make a terrible mess of the head stones while they are at it)   I do love going through the Victorian part of the cemetery where I'll be - as they have beautifully ornate graves 

 

anyhoo none of that has anything to do with German cremation so I'll leave it at that 

FM

My dog's ashes are going in with me when the time comes.

Mr Cosi is having the other poochie in with him.

Then......we're going to be mixed together and flung around somewhere out here.  Probably over the valley and onto a load of golfers 

They'll thank me when they're teeing off on a perfect green. 

 

I really dislike the idea of the state owning me or mine's ashes.

If I were German I think I'd refuse to be buried there at all.

Cosmopolitan

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