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Originally posted by Aimee:

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Originally posted by Queen of the High Teas:

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Originally posted by Aimee:

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Originally posted by Queen of the High Teas:
I always said if I ever had kids I'd adopt them rather than have one of my own. When we decided to have a family we tried for our own straight away and I got pregnant immediately. Now I don't know if I could have an adopted child with one of my own because I don't know if I could give them the same love. If I hadn't managed to get pregnant and the urge to have a family was still there, I do think I would adopt. It's more emotionally complicated than I realised.

don't know if you watched the programme, but those with thier own children and then added an adopted child found it harder as they was always putting their own childs feelings first

I saw one of them. I think that's what I'd worry about. It's just natural to put your own child first I think. People who can do it are amazing IMO.

i agree

my daughter is looking to move away to college when the time comes and i'm thinking of looking into it

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Originally posted by stonks:
I've taken on 2 that were'nt my own..when need be you don't think about it you just do what you need to do, something kicks in to protect....

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Originally posted by Gypsie:
yes 100% i could.
i love kids, and i always thought i didnt. but lo and behold i do

i saw a orphanage in turkey and i wanted them all!

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Originally posted by Gabriel Pennywise:
I was adopted by Liverpoolass.

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Originally posted by Rexi:

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Originally posted by Bigdaddyostrich:

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Originally posted by Rexi:
I really could

What I couldn't do is persuade hubby

Take my pair

for a weekend

a day

just 2 hours

please

Okay - how old are they (so's I can plan activites - not in a stalkey way)

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Originally posted by Aimee:
i've been watching these programmes on Ch4 the last few nights and its made me think, there was 3 young black boys and no-one wants them as they need to be kept together and most people don't won't more than one and they prefer babies, how sad its made me think wether i could do this

could you?

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Originally posted by Mummy Maz:
i was adopted when i was only 6months old - i always had a chip on my shoulder about it if i'm honest but then i found out where and who i came from - i swear to you all if i won the euromillions jackpot and gave it to my adoptive parents - it still wouldnt be enough to repay them from what rescued me from.. I urge anyone who is thinking about it to do it if they can, the life you can give kids (even if its not a luxurious one) will probably be worth more to them than they'll ever realise x

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How lovely that you were adopted by wonderful people.

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Originally posted by Mummy Maz:
i was adopted when i was only 6months old - i always had a chip on my shoulder about it if i'm honest but then i found out where and who i came from - i swear to you all if i won the euromillions jackpot and gave it to my adoptive parents - it still wouldnt be enough to repay them from what rescued me from.. I urge anyone who is thinking about it to do it if they can, the life you can give kids (even if its not a luxurious one) will probably be worth more to them than they'll ever realise x

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Originally posted by j0anne:
It took years for me to get prgnant the first time around....we were at the point of looking into adotion.....they sent all this info out and a booklet with these heart breaking pictures of children smilling so hard as much as if to say "pick me pick me"...as i read there history and about them it nigh on broke my heart i wanted all of them...to give them a cuddle and let them know they are beautiful.....its a crying shame it really is...

just about anyone who is physically able to concieve does so without any questions or regard as to wether they are suitable parents or even prepared for parenthood.....yet there are thousands of people who cant for whatever reason have children and they are pushed and pulled questioned every regard of there life is scutinised and pulled apart and disregarded....for being... older fat...too this too that and yet they would be excellent fab parents given half the chance they would give the world to a child and let the child have a loving home

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Originally posted by bozzimacoo:
i thought about it and had a chat with my son. at first he thought it cool to have a live-in brother or sister. but, we realised at the time, we are both rapped up in our own wants and needs, selfish if you like, so thought it wouldn't be fair.
now he is older and more independent, it's too late, cos of my age. think there is a scheme though, where you look after older kids, to give them some sort of family life before they enter adulthood.

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Originally posted by Bigdaddyostrich:
Know a couple who were turned down - get this - for being too middle class, too affluent and too successful.

He's an accountant, she's a solicitor. Both work fulltime. Poor role models, according to the knob ends at Social Services.

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Originally posted by j0anne:
It took years for me to get prgnant the first time around....we were at the point of looking into adotion.....they sent all this info out and a booklet with these heart breaking pictures of children smilling so hard as much as if to say "pick me pick me"...as i read there history and about them it nigh on broke my heart i wanted all of them...to give them a cuddle and let them know they are beautiful.....its a crying shame it really is...

just about anyone who is physically able to concieve does so without any questions or regard as to wether they are suitable parents or even prepared for parenthood.....yet there are thousands of people who cant for whatever reason have children and they are pushed and pulled questioned every regard of there life is scutinised and pulled apart and disregarded....for being... older fat...too this too that

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Originally posted by j0anne:
holly that is tragic it really is.....i bet you would have been fab parents as well....by the very fact you thought of adopiting shows you have a huge heart ....it is all so crazy and messed up ...these people who are in charge need to start to realise they are missing out big time and not actually doing children any favours for them by missing people like yourselves...and its not like time is on there side...these children need help now ....not in 20/30 yrs time when the wake up and smell the coffee.xxxxxxxxx

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Originally posted by Hollygolightly:

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Originally posted by j0anne:
It took years for me to get prgnant the first time around....we were at the point of looking into adotion.....they sent all this info out and a booklet with these heart breaking pictures of children smilling so hard as much as if to say "pick me pick me"...as i read there history and about them it nigh on broke my heart i wanted all of them...to give them a cuddle and let them know they are beautiful.....its a crying shame it really is...

just about anyone who is physically able to concieve does so without any questions or regard as to wether they are suitable parents or even prepared for parenthood.....yet there are thousands of people who cant for whatever reason have children and they are pushed and pulled questioned every regard of there life is scutinised and pulled apart and disregarded....for being... older fat...too this too that

Joanne, my husband and I are childless,(not by choice) and have been through the ringer trying to adopt. We have so much love to give, are comfortably off, yes we are what would be considered middle class and yet the most preposterious(sic) problems are put in our way. As we are not of the same religion ( both Christian by the way) it was felt that this would confuse any child who would come into our home. It beggars belief. Because I have been so emotionally bashed, we have decided to put things on hold.For those of you who have little ones, cherish them every day.

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Originally posted by Hollygolightly:

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Originally posted by j0anne:
It took years for me to get prgnant the first time around....we were at the point of looking into adotion.....they sent all this info out and a booklet with these heart breaking pictures of children smilling so hard as much as if to say "pick me pick me"...as i read there history and about them it nigh on broke my heart i wanted all of them...to give them a cuddle and let them know they are beautiful.....its a crying shame it really is...

just about anyone who is physically able to concieve does so without any questions or regard as to wether they are suitable parents or even prepared for parenthood.....yet there are thousands of people who cant for whatever reason have children and they are pushed and pulled questioned every regard of there life is scutinised and pulled apart and disregarded....for being... older fat...too this too that

Joanne, my husband and I are childless,(not by choice) and have been through the ringer trying to adopt. We have so much love to give, are comfortably off, yes we are what would be considered middle class and yet the most preposterious(sic) problems are put in our way. As we are not of the same religion ( both Christian by the way) it was felt that this would confuse any child who would come into our home. It beggars belief. Because I have been so emotionally bashed, we have decided to put things on hold.For those of you who have little ones, cherish them every day.

holly I am truly astounded

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Originally posted by Rexi:
I really could

What I couldn't do is persuade hubby

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Originally posted by Hollygolightly:

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Originally posted by j0anne:
It took years for me to get prgnant the first time around....we were at the point of looking into adotion.....they sent all this info out and a booklet with these heart breaking pictures of children smilling so hard as much as if to say "pick me pick me"...as i read there history and about them it nigh on broke my heart i wanted all of them...to give them a cuddle and let them know they are beautiful.....its a crying shame it really is...

just about anyone who is physically able to concieve does so without any questions or regard as to wether they are suitable parents or even prepared for parenthood.....yet there are thousands of people who cant for whatever reason have children and they are pushed and pulled questioned every regard of there life is scutinised and pulled apart and disregarded....for being... older fat...too this too that

Joanne, my husband and I are childless,(not by choice) and have been through the ringer trying to adopt. We have so much love to give, are comfortably off, yes we are what would be considered middle class and yet the most preposterious(sic) problems are put in our way. As we are not of the same religion ( both Christian by the way) it was felt that this would confuse any child who would come into our home. It beggars belief. Because I have been so emotionally bashed, we have decided to put things on hold.For those of you who have little ones, cherish them every day.

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Originally posted by mistyvermillion:
We adopted two children and i would say to anyone thinking about it,give it a go.It's not easy believe me but the rewards are priceless.
When our adoption went through i was very surprised at friends and family said how lucky the children were,that never ocurred to me i just thought how lucky we were.
I have seen adoptions that have fail badly(due to parents favouring birth children over adopted children)but have Known adopters with birth children and adopted children and it has been a total success.In my opinion you never know what your getting be it a birth child or adopted.I would lay down my life for mine and that's the way it should be no matter how you have children.

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Originally posted by Hollygolightly:

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Originally posted by j0anne:
It took years for me to get prgnant the first time around....we were at the point of looking into adotion.....they sent all this info out and a booklet with these heart breaking pictures of children smilling so hard as much as if to say "pick me pick me"...as i read there history and about them it nigh on broke my heart i wanted all of them...to give them a cuddle and let them know they are beautiful.....its a crying shame it really is...

just about anyone who is physically able to concieve does so without any questions or regard as to wether they are suitable parents or even prepared for parenthood.....yet there are thousands of people who cant for whatever reason have children and they are pushed and pulled questioned every regard of there life is scutinised and pulled apart and disregarded....for being... older fat...too this too that

Joanne, my husband and I are childless,(not by choice) and have been through the ringer trying to adopt. We have so much love to give, are comfortably off, yes we are what would be considered middle class and yet the most preposterious(sic) problems are put in our way. As we are not of the same religion ( both Christian by the way) it was felt that this would confuse any child who would come into our home. It beggars belief. Because I have been so emotionally bashed, we have decided to put things on hold.For those of you who have little ones, cherish them every day.

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Originally posted by Moonbeams:
I'd love to and I know his nibbs would be a fantastic father but I doubt it'll happen. I'm getting used to the idea of being childless, never getting called mum and never having our own child. Them's the breaks.

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Originally posted by fabienne:

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Originally posted by mistyvermillion:
We adopted two children and i would say to anyone thinking about it,give it a go.It's not easy believe me but the rewards are priceless.
When our adoption went through i was very surprised at friends and family said how lucky the children were,that never ocurred to me i just thought how lucky we were.
I have seen adoptions that have fail badly(due to parents favouring birth children over adopted children)but have Known adopters with birth children and adopted children and it has been a total success.In my opinion you never know what your getting be it a birth child or adopted.I would lay down my life for mine and that's the way it should be no matter how you have children.

I'm so glad there are people like you.