its made me think wether i could do thisReplies sorted oldest to newest
quote:Originally posted by Aimee:
i've been watching these programmes on Ch4 the last few nights and its made me think, there was 3 young black boys and no-one wants them as they need to be kept together and most people don't won't more than one and they prefer babies, how sad
could you?
quote:Originally posted by Baz:quote:Originally posted by Aimee:
i've been watching these programmes on Ch4 the last few nights and its made me think, there was 3 young black boys and no-one wants them as they need to be kept together and most people don't won't more than one and they prefer babies, how sad
could you?
It breaks my heart when you see or hear about that sort of thing Aimee... but I am not sure I could have done it....
quote:Originally posted by Gabriel Pennywise:
I was adopted by Liverpoolass.
quote:Originally posted by Turkey Choker:quote:Originally posted by Gabriel Pennywise:
I was adopted by Liverpoolass.
Oh lucky! I was left at the pound and will get put down at the end of the week if no one takes pity on meeeeeee
quote:Originally posted by Queen of the High Teas:
I always said if I ever had kids I'd adopt them rather than have one of my own. When we decided to have a family we tried for our own straight away and I got pregnant immediately. Now I don't know if I could have an adopted child with one of my own because I don't know if I could give them the same love. If I hadn't managed to get pregnant and the urge to have a family was still there, I do think I would adopt. It's more emotionally complicated than I realised.
quote:Originally posted by Aimee:quote:Originally posted by Queen of the High Teas:
I always said if I ever had kids I'd adopt them rather than have one of my own. When we decided to have a family we tried for our own straight away and I got pregnant immediately. Now I don't know if I could have an adopted child with one of my own because I don't know if I could give them the same love. If I hadn't managed to get pregnant and the urge to have a family was still there, I do think I would adopt. It's more emotionally complicated than I realised.
don't know if you watched the programme, but those with thier own children and then added an adopted child found it harder as they was always putting their own childs feelings first
quote:Originally posted by Queen of the High Teas:quote:Originally posted by Aimee:quote:Originally posted by Queen of the High Teas:
I always said if I ever had kids I'd adopt them rather than have one of my own. When we decided to have a family we tried for our own straight away and I got pregnant immediately. Now I don't know if I could have an adopted child with one of my own because I don't know if I could give them the same love. If I hadn't managed to get pregnant and the urge to have a family was still there, I do think I would adopt. It's more emotionally complicated than I realised.
don't know if you watched the programme, but those with thier own children and then added an adopted child found it harder as they was always putting their own childs feelings first
I saw one of them. I think that's what I'd worry about. It's just natural to put your own child first I think. People who can do it are amazing IMO.
quote:Originally posted by Rexi:
I really could
What I couldn't do is persuade hubby
quote:Originally posted by Gypsie:
yes 100% i could.
i love kids, and i always thought i didnt. but lo and behold i do
i saw a orphanage in turkey and i wanted them all!
i have only 1 child as i thought i wasn't very maternal, i then worked in a school and saw the children that wasn't being looked after and i wanted to take them home to feed them and care for themquote:Originally posted by stonks:
I've taken on 2 that were'nt my own..when need be you don't think about it you just do what you need to do, something kicks in to protect....
quote:Originally posted by stonks:
I've taken on 2 that were'nt my own..when need be you don't think about it you just do what you need to do, something kicks in to protect....
quote:Originally posted by Syd:quote:Originally posted by stonks:
I've taken on 2 that were'nt my own..when need be you don't think about it you just do what you need to do, something kicks in to protect....
Was that through family stonks?
quote:Originally posted by Aimee:quote:Originally posted by stonks:
I've taken on 2 that were'nt my own..when need be you don't think about it you just do what you need to do, something kicks in to protect....
aww thats so nice, my ex's g/friend has never taken to my daughter
quote:Originally posted by stonks:quote:Originally posted by Syd:quote:Originally posted by stonks:
I've taken on 2 that were'nt my own..when need be you don't think about it you just do what you need to do, something kicks in to protect....
Was that through family stonks?
One was he's my nephew, the other was a friends son....
quote:Originally posted by stonks:quote:Originally posted by Aimee:quote:Originally posted by stonks:
I've taken on 2 that were'nt my own..when need be you don't think about it you just do what you need to do, something kicks in to protect....
aww thats so nice, my ex's g/friend has never taken to my daughter
I can't understand women like that, the only thing I can think it would be is she see's you in your daughter and is jealous of the affection and love your ex shows your daughter....
yet we split years and years ago, she knew he had daughter when she met him and then got pregnant very soon after they got together, trouble is my daughter is older now and gives her the grief now, i keep well out of it quote:Originally posted by Aimee:quote:Originally posted by stonks:quote:Originally posted by Aimee:quote:Originally posted by stonks:
I've taken on 2 that were'nt my own..when need be you don't think about it you just do what you need to do, something kicks in to protect....
aww thats so nice, my ex's g/friend has never taken to my daughter
I can't understand women like that, the only thing I can think it would be is she see's you in your daughter and is jealous of the affection and love your ex shows your daughter....
that is the problem
quote:Originally posted by Bigdaddyostrich:quote:Originally posted by Rexi:
I really could
What I couldn't do is persuade hubby
Take my pair
for a weekend
a day
just 2 hours
please
quote:Originally posted by stonks:
One was he's my nephew, the other was a friends son....
quote:Originally posted by Aimee:quote:Originally posted by stonks:quote:Originally posted by Syd:quote:Originally posted by stonks:
I've taken on 2 that were'nt my own..when need be you don't think about it you just do what you need to do, something kicks in to protect....
Was that through family stonks?
One was he's my nephew, the other was a friends son....
wow, that must have been difficult, good on you
quote:Originally posted by stonks:quote:Originally posted by Aimee:quote:Originally posted by stonks:quote:Originally posted by Aimee:quote:Originally posted by stonks:
I've taken on 2 that were'nt my own..when need be you don't think about it you just do what you need to do, something kicks in to protect....
aww thats so nice, my ex's g/friend has never taken to my daughter
I can't understand women like that, the only thing I can think it would be is she see's you in your daughter and is jealous of the affection and love your ex shows your daughter....
that is the problem
Up her pocket money....
quote:Originally posted by Syd:quote:Originally posted by stonks:
One was he's my nephew, the other was a friends son....
I may sound nosy and perhaps insensitive, but, have you got them to give the parents and child a break, or are there no parents around?
quote:Originally posted by Syd:quote:Originally posted by stonks:
One was he's my nephew, the other was a friends son....
I may sound nosy and perhaps insensitive, but, have you got them to give the parents and child a break, or are there no parents around?
quote:Originally posted by stonks:
I've taken on 2 that were'nt my own..when need be you don't think about it you just do what you need to do, something kicks in to protect....
quote:Originally posted by Supercalifragilistic:
Didn't see the programme..but you have to be really 'special'/'dedicated' to do it...most kids, (other than babies,) up for adoption have experienced terrible trauma and it'll be v hard work - worth it 'though if you are really committed. Agree with others..often harder if you have got your own children, unfortunately turns out that blood is thicker than water and, even more unfortunately, when people haven't got their own, if they turn out problematic, too many adoptive parents then end up saying "well s/he is not really mine." Not a popular view with some, but hence I agree with the v robust vetting for adoptive parents
good postquote:Originally posted by stonks:quote:Originally posted by Syd:quote:Originally posted by stonks:
One was he's my nephew, the other was a friends son....
I may sound nosy and perhaps insensitive, but, have you got them to give the parents and child a break, or are there no parents around?
My friend could'nt cope he was a handfull so I took him on..my brother died in a car accident thats how I ended up with my nephew....
quote:Originally posted by stonks:
My friend could'nt cope he was a handfull so I took him on..my brother died in a car accident thats how I ended up with my nephew....
xxquote:Originally posted by Syd:quote:Originally posted by stonks:
My friend could'nt cope he was a handfull so I took him on..my brother died in a car accident thats how I ended up with my nephew....
A great friend you are too, why I asked is because I am sure with more friends like you around the place children would be happier....children sometimes don't need to enter 'the system' just need a recognisable face to look after them and I am sure ..make them tow the line....
You're Nephew is with his family...great.
Stonks
