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Sorry this is so trivial.

I have a pal who is a pretty good mate and I have known her since childhood (we are both in our early 40s; ) We fell out in our mid 20s and became pals again at the age 0f 40 (2 years ago...) She was a pretty unreliable friend half the time when we were teens, then she was OK for about 5 years from 17-22, then she became a very flaky friend again through our mid 20s.. always letting me down...

Anyway, we fell out at about 25, and didnt make up til we were 40, when we bumped into each other in town one day...

In the two years I have known her again, I have met her about every 6 weeks or so, for coffee or a pub lunch etc, and she has been good to be with, and a good laugh. When we says 'bye bye, let's do this again in 5 or 6 weeks,' she says 'speak to you soon... either you call me or text me or I'll call or text you.... But she never ever ever calls me... I called or texted her for the next meeting the first few times, but she has never done it to me. It's ALWAYS me.

A couple of times I have waited and waited, til it has been 8 weeks since we last met, and she just doesn't call or text. So I end up texting or phoning her. She is pleasant and chatty and we arrange a date to meet, and she turns up OK and we have a good time.

But this one thing is sooooo niggling me. Especially because the last 4 or 5 times - I have texted her, and she hasn't replied, and so I text her again 2 days after (asking if she has got the text message,) and then she still doesn't reply, so I phone her, and leave a voicemail message, and STILL get no response.

It's sometimes a week after my first message before she responds. But most of the time, I have to keep texting and phoning before I get hold of her... as she just rarely contacts me back.

The week before last, I texted twice in 5 days and then eventually phoned her at home, coz she never responded, and I left a message with her daughter. She still didn't phone, so I rang AGAIN, two days later, and finally got her...

Then we arranged to meet last thursday, and I was up all night with a tummy bug, and rang her at 8,15am the day we were meant to meet at 11am, to re-arrange. (I hated having to re-arrange, but I was very poorly... and she has re-arranged several times, so I am sure she didn;t mind...) Well she said she had to look at her shifts for the following week (this week) and she would get back to me 'over the weekend,' and let me know which day she could meet (this week ...)

Well it's Monday evening, and still nothing.... I texted her yesterday afternoon to say 'hi, are you still ok to meet this week?' No response. So I rang her mobile this morning. Voicemail. I just said 'hi, just checking to see if you still wanna meet for a coffee this week.' It's now 8pm; still no response.

SO what should I do. I'm getting fed up of 'chasing her...' She always turns up and has only cancelled two or three times, and has let me know the day before one time, and the morning of the day we were due to meet on the other time, and she buys nice gifts and always sends greetings cards to my family, and we chat for ages and have lots in common... but this is really grating on me. She is USELESS at contacting me; even when I contact HER 3 or 4 times.

Her usual excuse if 'I ran out of phone credit...' But this happens almost EVERY time I text or ring her... And furthermore, she has a landline, so she could 'phone me back..'

Has anyone got any advice for me? What should I do about this? And what should I do about the fact she hasn't rung with a day to meet this week as promised. I have contacted her twice over the weekend about it. I feel like I am being a nusiance by constantly texting and phoning, but it's only because she never returns my bloody voicemail calls or texts!

Sorry about this petty problem, but I am just not sure what to do...

I just wonder if I did not contact her at all, after we have left each other after having a coffe; whether I would see her or hear from her again. Frowner Could this all be because she can't be arsed with me anymore? Or is it just an annoying trait she has, that I have to tolerate??? I just don't know..........But I don't think I wanna tolerate it much longer.....

Thanks for reading this; that's if you got to the bottom without falling asleep Laugh

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I am your friend (not literally, you understand)...I never call, I never have my phone switched on...that's if I even remember it or haven't lost it (which I do regularly) I put maybe a tenners worth of credit on a year (and that's being optimistic about it...probably more like a fiver)

I just don't much see the point of calling people unless it's for a specific reason...or obviously people who live away and I don't get to see often.

I can't even remember the last time I called my best mate...months and months ago. No point really though when she rings me at lest twice a week for an hour each time...there's just nowt left to say Laugh
Leccy
Sorry to hear Cheeky. I'm afraid you may not like my advice but I would definitely not contact her again. If she does not contact you then she is NOT a friend. Friendship is not based on one person doing all the running.

"Friendship, Love has to be set free. If it comes back to you, good, if not it was never there in the first place"
P
I really honestly don't know if she does it with anyone else, as I don;t have contact with anyone else she knows. I kind of 'know' a few of her extended family, but I rarely see them and wouldn't ask them anyway.. Blush I am a little reluctant to confront her. Maybe for a fear of offending her; although she offends me with her lack of thought and consideration. Frowner Aren't I useless? Blush
CheekyPixie
I'd just leave it to be honest, if she wants to keep in contact then she will get the hint eventually (you would hope)

I had a best friend before I came to uni, and although we hung round with each other day in day out at college, when it came to holidays she never got in contact with me to do stuff, when I moved away she kept saying she would come and visit but never did and eventually we barely spoke unless I was arranging to go home. Even then I would have to constantly phone her to check she still wanted to meet up and she would constantly change our plans until it ended with us just going to the local pub for one drink then going home. So I stopped bothering to contact her, and by christmas in my first year we barely spoke at all, friends organised a get together in the new year and we were both there ( I got incredibly drunk to ease some of the tension i felt) and she ended up telling me stuff that she probably wanted to keep secret. The next day she text me asking if I could remember what she had said and I said no but she stopped speaking to me anyway...we haven't spoken since really except when she added me on facebook and found out my grandad had died the week before- supposedly I should have rung her to let her know so we could talk...I couldnt quite get my head around that as we hadn't spoken for almost a year. Now she bitches at mutual friends about how I have my own life but really its her that caused it and its her that can fix it.
T
Cheeky am I one of those people who are TOTALLY useless at keeping in touch with people. My best friend and I go for months and months without getting in touch, but luckily we're both as bad as each other so neither is offended.

However.... I know for a fact if she called me as often as you have, trying to get in touch, my conscience wouldn't allow me not to return the effort.
Ducky
I wouldn't be so rude as to not acnowledge your calls but if someone tried to contact me as often as you appear to contact her I would find it irritating because
if she were a man you would know why she wasn't responding so why is a woman different it's the drip drip effect and as you have fallen out several times over the years I am not really surprised
you should find a new friend
They do have their sell by date as a rule and this one is way out of date
P
Oh dear. I'm rubbish at returning calls and stuff.. but if I'm honest, I'd say in this case let it go. Put it this way - if it was a bloke, the phrase would seem to be 'he's just not that into you' No offence meant, cheeky, I count you as FM mate, but some things aren't worth expending your energy on. Who knows, maybe she will call you if you don't get in touch?
Kaffs
I can be a bit like you describe... and its cos my life is all over the shop, and I can be a bit scatty.

I also have a friend, who is worse than me, way worse than me. A long time ago I made the decision to accept her for the dizzy bird she was. It wasn't personal, everyone knows what she's like... and the otherside of her is she is a lovely lovely person, which makes up for her scattiness.

That said, I have laughed off a different friend, difference was she was taking the pish, whereas nice friend... its just who she is.

I think thats the decision you have to make... do you think enough of her to accept this side of her.
Dirtyprettygirlthing
Thanks so much folks. paace, I am not offended at all.... I am half-thinking what you are saying. I just feel a bit bad because we were meant to meet last thursday... but I had to cancel becasue of my tummy bug. But I let her know well in advance, before she left her house, and said 'can we re-arrange now? What about next thursday instead?' And she said she would have to get back to me on it. PLUS, she has cancelled several times, and it's had to be re-arranged. So surely she wouldn't be pissed off about that? She sounded fine on the phone.

I keep feeling that because *I* cancelled last week, that I should keep trying to contact her. But I am going to start feeling like I am harrassing her if I phone or text anymore!
CheekyPixie
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Originally posted by ~~KaffyBaffy~~:
Oh dear. I'm rubbish at returning calls and stuff.. but if I'm honest, I'd say in this case let it go. Put it this way - if it was a bloke, the phrase would seem to be 'he's just not that into you' No offence meant, cheeky, I count you as FM mate, but some things aren't worth expending your energy on. Who knows, maybe she will call you if you don't get in touch?
Thanks Kaffy. I am not offended. I think maybe you could be right. If this WAS a bloke, I would have ditched him ages ago. It could be that it IS just the way she is, and she is like that with everyone, but it could be that she really IS just 'not that into me..' Guess time will tell. Maybe I should just not call her or text her again, and if she DOES contact me, then maybe it IS that she is just dippy, forgetful and useless at contacting folk, but still wants the friendship... She always turns up for our arranged meetings though and is kind with gifts and suchlike, but this one thing about her is so annoying. I just can't get my head round it TBH.
CheekyPixie
People drift apart. Maybe you both feel obliged to keep in contact because you parted on bad terms all those years ago and are a lot more mature now. You've coped without her for years so I'd stop contacting her....put the ball in her court. If she gets in contact...great. If she doesn't...well at least you know where you stand.

Friendships/relationships only work if both people are willing to put in the same effort Thumbs Up
Cagney
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Originally posted by Cagney:
People drift apart. Maybe you both feel obliged to keep in contact because you parted on bad terms all those years ago and are a lot more mature now. You've coped without her for years so I'd stop contacting her....put the ball in her court. If she gets in contact...great. If she doesn't...well at least you know where you stand.

Friendships/relationships only work if both people are willing to put in the same effort Thumbs Up
Thanks Cagney... the general consensus seems to be 'wait for her to contact you.'' If she is a real friend, she will...... '

Even though *I* cancelled last week, I WAS ill, and I DID offer immediately, to re-arrange, and she has cancelled on me several times... and I have tried to contact her since, and I always always always contact her three or four times before I get her... Mad Thanks to you PCE Smiler
CheekyPixie
Maybe she would call you first if given the chance? You obviously value her friendship so you have to ask yourself what would be more hurtful for YOU, the possibility of not seeing her anymore or just accepting she’s not reliable and maintaining the friendship as it is now. There is a giver and a taker in most relationships, so give her a chance to get in touch and don’t fret over it too much - don't count the days/weeks since she called, quality is better than quantity?
Sorry if this sounds harsh but you don’t want to appear too needy or too expectant, otherwise seeing you WILL become a ‘duty’ to be fulfilled rather than a fun and relaxed meet up.
J
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Originally posted by JasmineJ:
Maybe she would call you first if given the chance? You obviously value her friendship so you have to ask yourself what would be more hurtful for YOU, the possibility of not seeing her anymore or just accepting she’s not reliable and maintaining the friendship as it is now. There is a giver and a taker in most relationships, so give her a chance to get in touch and don’t fret over it too much - don't count the days/weeks since she called, quality is better than quantity?
Sorry if this sounds harsh but you don’t want to appear too needy or too expectant, otherwise seeing you WILL become a ‘duty’ to be fulfilled rather than a fun and relaxed meet up.


Excellent post Jasmine.
P
quote:
Originally posted by JasmineJ:
Maybe she would call you first if given the chance? You obviously value her friendship so you have to ask yourself what would be more hurtful for YOU, the possibility of not seeing her anymore or just accepting she’s not reliable and maintaining the friendship as it is now. There is a giver and a taker in most relationships, so give her a chance to get in touch and don’t fret over it too much - don't count the days/weeks since she called, quality is better than quantity?
Sorry if this sounds harsh but you don’t want to appear too needy or too expectant, otherwise seeing you WILL become a ‘duty’ to be fulfilled rather than a fun and relaxed meet up.
Thanks so much Jasmine... Again, I am not offended, and I can see how I could come across as a bit needy and desperate. It's just that I am worried if *I* don't get in touch, I will lose her as a friend....and in many other ways, she is great... I am quite an insecure person too, and assume if someone does not return calls/messages, that I must have upset them, and they are mad with me. Frowner

I have a couple of other pals - one who lives in my neighbouring street, about 2 minutes walk away, who I see socially about once a month, when we go swimming together with our daughters, and one who I have regular email contact with and see about 3 times a year.. The second one who lives 40-50 miles away, emails me sometimes out of the blue, unlike my pal who I am on about in this thread, and if I email her, she always responds within 1-2 days.

And the girl in my neighbouring street is quite OK too, and it's easy to keep contact because we live 40 yards apart... Not in each other's pockets, and we go a week without seeing each other sometimes, but she is closeby, so we 'see each other' to arrange stuff. But this other pal is just awful for not returning my calls and not getting in touch... maybe I 'should' just 'not contact her' again, and see what happens...
CheekyPixie
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Originally posted by Cheeky-Pixie:
quote:
Originally posted by JasmineJ:
Maybe she would call you first if given the chance? You obviously value her friendship so you have to ask yourself what would be more hurtful for YOU, the possibility of not seeing her anymore or just accepting she’s not reliable and maintaining the friendship as it is now. There is a giver and a taker in most relationships, so give her a chance to get in touch and don’t fret over it too much - don't count the days/weeks since she called, quality is better than quantity?
Sorry if this sounds harsh but you don’t want to appear too needy or too expectant, otherwise seeing you WILL become a ‘duty’ to be fulfilled rather than a fun and relaxed meet up.
Thanks so much Jasmine... Again, I am not offended, and I can see how I could come across as a bit needy and desperate. It's just that I am worried if *I* don't get in touch, I will lose her as a friend....and in many other ways, she is great... I am quite an insecure person too, and assume if someone does not return calls/messages, that I must have upset them, and they are mad with me. Frowner

I have a couple of other pals - one who lives in my neighbouring street, about 2 minutes walk away, who I see socially about once a month, when we go swimming together with our daughters, and one who I have regular email contact with and see about 3 times a year.. The second one who lives 40-50 miles away, emails me sometimes out of the blue, unlike my pal who I am on about in this thread, and if I email her, she always responds within 1-2 days.

And the girl in my neighbouring street is quite OK too, and it's easy to keep contact because we live 40 yards apart... Not in each other's pockets, and we go a week without seeing each other sometimes, but she is closeby, so we 'see each other' to arrange stuff. But this other pal is just awful for not returning my calls and not getting in touch... maybe I 'should' just 'not contact her' again, and see what happens...


Just different types of people with different approaches to friendship eh, you’re not overly needy – you’ve great relations with your other mates so it’s not that you’re doing anything wrong. The opposite in fact, you’re obviously a very loyal friend.
Don’t beat yourself up over letting her down, I bet she understood why you cancelled and hasn’t dwelled on it at all. Hopefully you’ll remain friends.
J
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Originally posted by JasmineJ:Just different types of people with different approaches to friendship eh, you’re not overly needy – you’ve great relations with your other mates so it’s not that you’re doing anything wrong. The opposite in fact, you’re obviously a very loyal friend.
Don’t beat yourself up over letting her down, I bet she understood why you cancelled and hasn’t dwelled on it at all. Hopefully you’ll remain friends.


Awwww, thanks Jasmine, you're very sweet. Hug The replies on here have been very kind and sympathetic, and honest with straight talking and no bullshit. I appreciate that, I really do.... thanks everyone Blush I think maybe the best thing would be to let her contact me. I hope she does, and I will be disappointed if she doesn't to be honest. But as many have pointed out, it's rather unfair, that it's so one-sided and always me calling and texting her, and I feel like a flippin stalker who is harrassing her sometimes! But as I said, it's only coz she doesn't return my message. Maybe I am abit intense, and should chill a little Blush
CheekyPixie
Well i went through this with one of smy friends one time, I would text her and say i have left you numerous messages, voice mails your obviously busy so ill leave you to call me.

Sounds like CP that you are doing all the work, see it as its her loss and i wouldnt make anymore effort personally and leave her to make the contact. If she doesnt then it cant be you chasing her all the time.

Good luck, hope it all works out. Smiler
sunny dayz
quote:
Originally posted by JasmineJ:
Maybe she would call you first if given the chance? You obviously value her friendship so you have to ask yourself what would be more hurtful for YOU, the possibility of not seeing her anymore or just accepting she’s not reliable and maintaining the friendship as it is now. There is a giver and a taker in most relationships, so give her a chance to get in touch and don’t fret over it too much - don't count the days/weeks since she called, quality is better than quantity?
Sorry if this sounds harsh but you don’t want to appear too needy or too expectant, otherwise seeing you WILL become a ‘duty’ to be fulfilled rather than a fun and relaxed meet up.


Great advise Jasmine! Thumbs Up
sunny dayz
quote:
Originally posted by sunny dayz:
Well i went through this with one of smy friends one time, I would text her and say i have left you numerous messages, voice mails your obviously busy so ill leave you to call me.

Sounds like CP that you are doing all the work, see it as its her loss and i wouldnt make anymore effort personally and leave her to make the contact. If she doesnt then it cant be you chasing her all the time.

Good luck, hope it all works out. Smiler
Thank you sunnydayz. I have been debating whether to send 'one' more text, maybe in a few days if I hear nothing, but then I always say that and always end 'one more text,' until I have sent about five! Think I would be better just waiting for her to contact me.
CheekyPixie
'Tis a dimella. I was in a friendship where I was always the one who rang to keep in touch. When I went through a bad patch, I didn't ring for a long time, and she never rang to find out what was wrong. The friendship eventually ended, regretfully, as she was a great girl, but it has to be mutual to work for me.

I hope your friendship will continue, though, as it's a horrible feeling when it ends. Hug
fabienne
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Originally posted by Cheeky-Pixie:
Sorry this is so trivial.

I have a pal who is a pretty good mate and I have known her since childhood (we are both in our early 40s; ) We fell out in our mid 20s and became pals again at the age 0f 40 (2 years ago...) She was a pretty unreliable friend half the time when we were teens, then she was OK for about 5 years from 17-22, then she became a very flaky friend again through our mid 20s.. always letting me down...

Anyway, we fell out at about 25, and didnt make up til we were 40, when we bumped into each other in town one day...

In the two years I have known her again, I have met her about every 6 weeks or so, for coffee or a pub lunch etc, and she has been good to be with, and a good laugh. When we says 'bye bye, let's do this again in 5 or 6 weeks,' she says 'speak to you soon... either you call me or text me or I'll call or text you.... But she never ever ever calls me... I called or texted her for the next meeting the first few times, but she has never done it to me. It's ALWAYS me.

A couple of times I have waited and waited, til it has been 8 weeks since we last met, and she just doesn't call or text. So I end up texting or phoning her. She is pleasant and chatty and we arrange a date to meet, and she turns up OK and we have a good time.

But this one thing is sooooo niggling me. Especially because the last 4 or 5 times - I have texted her, and she hasn't replied, and so I text her again 2 days after (asking if she has got the text message,) and then she still doesn't reply, so I phone her, and leave a voicemail message, and STILL get no response.

It's sometimes a week after my first message before she responds. But most of the time, I have to keep texting and phoning before I get hold of her... as she just rarely contacts me back.

The week before last, I texted twice in 5 days and then eventually phoned her at home, coz she never responded, and I left a message with her daughter. She still didn't phone, so I rang AGAIN, two days later, and finally got her...

Then we arranged to meet last thursday, and I was up all night with a tummy bug, and rang her at 8,15am the day we were meant to meet at 11am, to re-arrange. (I hated having to re-arrange, but I was very poorly... and she has re-arranged several times, so I am sure she didn;t mind...) Well she said she had to look at her shifts for the following week (this week) and she would get back to me 'over the weekend,' and let me know which day she could meet (this week ...)

Well it's Monday evening, and still nothing.... I texted her yesterday afternoon to say 'hi, are you still ok to meet this week?' No response. So I rang her mobile this morning. Voicemail. I just said 'hi, just checking to see if you still wanna meet for a coffee this week.' It's now 8pm; still no response.

SO what should I do. I'm getting fed up of 'chasing her...' She always turns up and has only cancelled two or three times, and has let me know the day before one time, and the morning of the day we were due to meet on the other time, and she buys nice gifts and always sends greetings cards to my family, and we chat for ages and have lots in common... but this is really grating on me. She is USELESS at contacting me; even when I contact HER 3 or 4 times.

Her usual excuse if 'I ran out of phone credit...' But this happens almost EVERY time I text or ring her... And furthermore, she has a landline, so she could 'phone me back..'

Has anyone got any advice for me? What should I do about this? And what should I do about the fact she hasn't rung with a day to meet this week as promised. I have contacted her twice over the weekend about it. I feel like I am being a nusiance by constantly texting and phoning, but it's only because she never returns my bloody voicemail calls or texts!

Sorry about this petty problem, but I am just not sure what to do...

I just wonder if I did not contact her at all, after we have left each other after having a coffe; whether I would see her or hear from her again. Frowner Could this all be because she can't be arsed with me anymore? Or is it just an annoying trait she has, that I have to tolerate??? I just don't know..........But I don't think I wanna tolerate it much longer.....

Thanks for reading this; that's if you got to the bottom without falling asleep Laugh


auntie lil replies -

in my experience as an edwardian and having lived a long time - i have a simple answer

EXIT STAGE RIGHT

a leopard rarely changes it's spots

i suggest you value YOUR company more dearly and find some chums that appreciate you

ignore this person and delete her number

problem solved Thumbs Up
EDWARDIAN LIL
yeah definately dont make anymore effort now. Wait for her to get in touch.

if it was me though i probably would send that last text as she will be expecting you to get in touch otherwise, if you have stated you wont make anymore contact as you guess she's busy or something like that then she will know you wont be. Let us know how you get on with her. Hug
sunny dayz
i speak from experience - i had a good chum school friends but we lost touch mainly because she had 'the green bug'

yes dear friends she envied the fact that i was edwardian and she wasn't Disappointed

being a wonderfully modest and delightful charming person - i decided to take up her invitation to pop over to her new home

an invitation arrived out of the blue -

i quickly realised that the same 'green issue' was still there - all these years later it was still there - obviously lying dormant

very disappointing

'oh we must do this again' she quipped Nod

lil thinking whilst waving;

yes dear friend that i have nothing in common with - perhaps in another life - and even at that - i would have to be desperate Wave

lesson being;

life is too short to waste on bores cads and wastrels THEY ARE THIEVES and they are STEALING YOUR TIME

BE GONE WITH THEM! Shake Head

luv
lilly lou Witch
EDWARDIAN LIL
quote:
Originally posted by EDWARDIAN LIL:
i speak from experience - i had a good chum school friends but we lost touch mainly because she had 'the green bug'

yes dear friends she envied the fact that i was edwardian and she wasn't Disappointed

being a wonderfully modest and delightful charming person - i decided to take up her invitation to pop over to her new home

an invitation arrived out of the blue -

i quickly realised that the same 'green issue' was still there - all these years later it was still there - obviously lying dormant

very disappointing

'oh we must do this again' she quipped Nod

lil thinking whilst waving;

yes dear friend that i have nothing in common with - perhaps in another life - and even at that - i would have to be desperate Wave

lesson being;

life is too short to waste on bores cads and wastrels THEY ARE THIEVES and they are STEALING YOUR TIME

BE GONE WITH THEM! Shake Head

luv
lilly lou Witch
Clapping

spot on lil! I feel the same as you and have kicked many of my mates to the kurb who have taken the mick..so to speak Big Grin
sunny dayz
quote:
Originally posted by EDWARDIAN LIL:
auntie lil replies -

in my experience as an edwardian and having lived a long time - i have a simple answer

EXIT STAGE RIGHT

a leopard rarely changes it's spots

i suggest you value YOUR company more dearly and find some chums that appreciate you

ignore this person and delete her number

problem solved Thumbs Up
Thanks Lil Hug i really don't wanna lose her as a friend because she is fun to be with and is quite kind and we go WAY back and have much in common, but I am SO sick of being treated this way. I do wonder if I 'didn't' contact her - for a change - if she would contact me, or if it would end up like Fabienne's not so faithful friend. (If I don't contact her, I hear nowt from her at all... ) Frowner I am so sorry Fabienne. That's a bit of a sad story...
CheekyPixie
quote:
Originally posted by sunny dayz:
yeah definately dont make anymore effort now. Wait for her to get in touch.

if it was me though i probably would send that last text as she will be expecting you to get in touch otherwise, if you have stated you wont make anymore contact as you guess she's busy or something like that then she will know you wont be. Let us know how you get on with her. Hug
Thanks sunnydayz. I am still pondering that one, and wonder exactly how to word it if I do text her...
CheekyPixie
its odd i feel the same - my frend is a great girl
But i get a lot of mixed messages from her

She misleads me now and again, i find it hard to beleive wot she says

Then wen given a chance to move to a new, temporary place of work with much better working conditions until me and her meet up at our newer venture together ... she refuses to go unless i'm going too
Saint
Have to go now ... thanks so much everyone for all of your lovely supportive messages. Still not sure whether to send 'one' last message, (text that is...) in 3 or 4 days or so, just to say 'hope everything is ok, sorry we never managed to get together this week after all. Just get in touch when you're ready to meet up again...' And then never contact her again; just wait for her to contact me...'

And then if she DOES contact me, and I DO meet her, I can't decide whether to wait six weeks or so - as usual, and text her to say 'wanna meet for a coffee,' and then if she doesn't respond, don't make a second contact, or whether I should just literally wait for her to get in touch.... I fear I may wait a long time if I do that... I'll keep you all posted Smiler Thanks again...
CheekyPixie

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