Oh God, how horrible And what a worry for the girls AND for you too. The thing is, although these girls are at an age where the police could take action, I can fully understand why your daughter and her friend are reluctant to do so. It's so difficult with kids of that age cos they think they can take on the whole world, the girls are worse too.

Would it be worth going to see the parents? If not, how about talking to the local police and explaining the situation? They would understand her/their fears of not wanting to be a grass but should be able to provide some kind of presence or security for this. I don't mean for this to sound crass or dismissive in any way, but hopefully the 'buzz' of this for the girls will wear off and they'll stop soon. The only reason they're doing this is because the girls are doing well for themselves, not interested in being the layabout chavs that the bullies are and actually want to DO something with their lives. It's bloody heartbreaking when your child is getting bullied or you find out about anyone harming them. I went through it with my son (but he's younger). Like your daughter, he is well above average height and weight for his age and wouldn't fight back for more or less the same reasons your daughter said. In the end though on the last day of primary school last summer he snapped, had a fight with the ringleader and broke his nose and leg. Since then he's not had an ounce of trouble (touch wood).

Not suggesting that's the solution at ALL cos it isn't and it should never get to that stage. I have approached parents in the past and have managed to get situations sorted, or older siblings of the bullies who had more sense. I've also talked to the police and I did find them helpful at the time. It might be worth considering and you'll feel a lot better if you know you've alerted someone who has the power to do something about it.


God I've rambled on again mate, sorry x

Do you know the girl's address?  Then go round and tell her Mum what's going on. You're the adult so it's up to you.  Especially if it's causing your girl so much distress. Don't ignore it. DO something about it and get it nipped in the bud.

Thanks Karma  my daughter walks home most of the time in shorts, football socks and a hockey stick thrown over her back  but she's a nice looking girl (mothers view)  but i would kill anyone that hurt her and she knows that and that's why she didn't tell me at the time, but this poor girl didn't go too school yesterday cause she was too scared  she told her mum she was i'll, i want too help this girl but i don't know how without betraying my daughter, what makes me sick is the bullies are having a peaceful nights sleep, while my daughters mate is probably lying awake wondering if she will get smacked on the way too school

What Hobbes said...

Can't you just go round this girl's house and have a word with her Mum?
I know its hard Aimee but sometimes doing the right thing is hard. The fact that your daughter has told you may be a subconscious plea for you to do something about it.

Go to the police and make sure they contact the girls parents. There really isn't anything to think about in a situation such as this other than it has to be dealt with immediately. This poor girl sounds like she's going through hell. As Hobbes said, you're the adult, take it upon yourself to put an end to it and make sure both girls get police protection while the lowlifes are smoked out and dealt with in a manner that ensure they will be no threat to anyone.

I don't know where the girl lives Hobbes, like i said she lives out of the area of the school , i've only met her mum once when i asked her if she wanted too sit wih us at a awards show

Go to the school and insist they do something about it then.  How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot and that girl's Mother stood by and did nothing if it was your daughter?

It's very difficult, but I agree that you should tell either the mother or the school. Maybe your daughter could invite her friend and you could have a talk with her. I think your daughter will understand that you are not breaking her trust, but rather trying to help her friend.

Maybe an anonymous phone call to the school the bullies attend, informing them that their kids are targetting kids from other schools and that physical violence has been witnessed, would do some good, if this girl is really sure that she won't report it.

Aimee, you should do whatever you think is right, but I would have to contact someone (the school or the girl's mum) and tell them what is going on.
Bullies thrive because their victims are afraid to tell. It sounds like this poor girl needs someone to speak up, on her behalf.

I have to agree with this post. You have to do something even if you do it anonymously. Before it escalates and get's completely out of control. A child being head butted until her vision is blurry is in danger.