Originally Posted by Eileen Over:
There are different types of abuse as many of us are aware.
I didn't watch the show but have been reading the thread on DS. I do not think that Nicola was talking about physical abuse but psychological abuse.
Now some are asking what the heck would she know? Well the thing is, unless you, or someone you know has suffered psychological abuse, you wouldn't because the signs are hidden. It is far more subtle. So it is not fair to name call Nicola without knowing the facts behind it.
Certainly some of the behaviours Aaron has shown towards Faye do match psychological abuse.
BUT ( and here is the thing).
This is not fair or rational to accuse him of this. As much as I dislike him , he is in a hothouse environment, he is with a woman who is probably a little emotionally unstable and IMO they are completely wrong and bad for each other.
The Aaron haters blame him completely. The Aaron fans blame Faye.
We cannot really judge because of the editing and lack of live feed. However I do not think that they are good for each other. I really do not think there is any love there or ( more importantly) respect.
I think that Aaron is in way over his head and I am still convinced that Faye is more in love with the idea of love if you see what I mean.
When she is out, she will want to do the mag deals and ( watch this space) I reckon he will as well. Because in this economical climate we all do what we can.However this romance is doomed for failure because they really do not have anything in common.
Jay and Lou really do have more in common - as much as I hate to admit it. This does not mean that I am a Jay fan BTW but look how he acts with her and then look at how Aaron is with Faye.
I am sure that eventually Aaron's wife will speak because someone will offer her a deal that she cannot refuse.
I have stopped watching BBOTS because of the sheer nastiness that goes on.
Eileen with respect, Aarons wife has already spoken. She has said that Aaron and her are still on friendly terms, he has his son 3-4 days a week and Aaron is exactly what you see.
He gave up work to take care of his wife and son....no big deal... i would expect nno less from any real man. If he was going to 'psychologically abuse' anyone i would expect it to have surfaced then when both he and his wife were under a great deal of stress.
And to hold up Jay as paragon of how a man should be if he has true feelings for someone is, to my mind, boggling! The man may be in lust but its certainly not love. He wipes his backside on her pillow, farts in her face and constantly tells her and anyone listening how he's going to 'ram it to her' when he gets a chance.
I stopped watching bbbots too because of the vulgar and crass bias shown by the presenters and the total dumb stupidity of most of the hand picked audience.
It would be nice if just a few of Aarons detractors would stand up and admit that calling the man a scumbag and psychological wife abuser is wrong..... but they are so busy calling his supporters names and picking him to pieces that they just glory in someone else finding fault with him and use it as an excuse to further ridicule anyone who stands up for him!
Aaron is moody, he has sulks, he takes unbelievable strops but he is a decent guy.He's not vulgar doesn't demean women with his vocabulary and has principles.... go shoot him.
I would be just as outraged if it was any one person in the house being singled out for this treatment, Alex has admitted on national tv to robbing a blind woman and doesn't get the treatment Aaron gets. It hasn't even been mentioned on bbbots since the night it first came out. She's done lad mags and then says couldn't do that kind of thing when it was brought up last night, yet that was swept under the carpet too. I don't particularly have anything against Alex i'm only mentioning her here as an example of what others have got away with and yet we have so called celebrities allowed to assassinate a mans character just because its the 'in' thing at the moment.
There was a film i watched once, a courtroom drama in the deep south, where the lawyer asked the jury to close their eyes.... he then told them all the things done to a poor little victim who just happened to be black, after finishing his summary he told them to ' now imagine she was white'. Same logic stands here.
Sorry for such a long post, it wont happen again.
Aarons wife has spoken and has done so with respect for him she said he is being himself, if she had anything bad to say about him I think she would have done so long before now,I believe if they did have feelings for one another once they leave the house it will be doomed anyway because of Faye's mother Gem and her boyfriend.. they have already publically messed with her head ..her mother has a lot to answer to in my opinion both her daughters seem very needy and very low in self esteem,Gem said more than once she had a completely different upbringing from Faye she had nothing whilst Faye was spoiled and got everything.. it would not surprise me if the mother played them off against one another and messed with both of their heads..awful woman in my opinion,Aaron ..love him or hate him he has made BB worth watching this year..I really hope he wins
