That is so touching Summer, I can see that your friend could do with you being closer but that's life isn't it? I hope you can meet up often.
Yes Ben still used to try and creep onto my lap but his bottom kept falling off and he wasn't comfortable. Our cat when a tiny kitten used to like to get into our music cabinet which had space for LP records - there was just room for him to sit on top of them and he often used to peer at the space when he was adult and you could see he was puzzled about why he couldn't get in there anymore.