Aww, I know, I know! 

However, and I'm really not saying this in a negative way  , I'm pretty crap at being a 'wife and muvver' too! Sitting on the forum all day doesn't really count, does it?! 

Anyway, I have a happy marriage and the kids are dragging themselves up quite nicely, so that's the positive side! 

That's actually a bliddy good achievement!

I'm positively a negative person... or maybe I'm a negatively positive person Actually, I'm a bit of both....

 Or, I've just been very lucky!

Seriously, I do count my lucky stars, but, as I get older I just feel a bit panicky about doing eff all for so many years! I know it doesn't matter, in the grand scheme of things, so I push it to the back of my mind, mostly. I just don't want my kids to end up feeling the same, I suppose, and hope they have more drive and ambition. Having said all that, happiness is what I wish for them, the most. 

Blizz, forgive my interrupting but I don't accept that its down solely to good luck.  You've a brilliant attitude and outlook on things, going on posting with you in the last 4 years.  If that's the way you are in your real life, then managing to bring yr kids up correctly, is an achievement you can be proud of.



If it helps I think everyone gets to a point where they wonder have they really made the most of things and pushed themselves as much as they could've.  But you do what you do at the time and looking back you don't see the reasons behind the decisions you made so clearly.  It's natural for a parent to want more for their children, but always be proud of what you've done four your family and your kids.

I'm usually quite positive but also cautious.  I think my life is pretty mediocre because I won't let myself just go for it causing things to become unbalanced.  I'd like to be less cautious but I know I can't cope with stress coz I lead a relatively stress free life.  So I just stay down the middle and hope nothing serious rocks the boat.  Bit boring but meh.

Yeah...  I absolutely know that feeling...  I am the same.

I just keep reminding myself that this phase of my life is just that... a phase.   I might feel like "this is it" at the moment...   but soon the kids will be grown up and the next phase will begin.  

Also..   that this phase is an important one... and one that I'd hate to look back on with regret, if the kids had ended up down & out, and I realised that it might not have been that way had I prioritised them more at the time.

These are the thoughts I use to make the panicky thoughts shut up!

Temps, you are too kind (seriously, too kind   ! 

I am proud of my kids and so grateful that I've been dealt a lucky hand, and I know that part of that is how I've dealt with things. It sounds like I'm putting myself down, but I am happy with myself, honest!  I think I was just brought up to never expect praise and I find it hard to accept compliments and to give them. I know that you can over do the praise, with kids, but I have to remind myself not to go the other way with them. 

Anyway, enough about me! 

How are you doing? 

Yeah, but you've had a career, at least! 

I've been at home for 21 years now and I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up!  

p.s. talking about being a crap 'wife and muvva', I just started cooking a cottage pie and Mr Blizz came into the kitchen and offered to take over! Not sure if he's being kind, or just worried about the results! 

Kind of...   I'd made it to the job below the level of job I wanted...     

and... I too can't decide what I want to do when I grow up....    I just know an awful lot of things I don't want to do!

and...  Mr Ditty is cooking for us tonight too!    He wanted homemade chips...    my chips come from a bag in the freezer!

 Ditty! 

I always say that I am an optimist by nature and a pessimist by experience! I wish i was more positive but I have had too many setbacks to really believe things will work out right! I keep trying though

Oooooooooooooooooooooh husbands/partners that cook ................my fantasy 

It keeps me positive  

My mate's just got a new Turkish boyfriend who has moved over here and he cooks everything for her and all of it is healthy.  I might throw mine out and replace it with a Turkish model.  Postive!

Ah the 'compliment' issue Blizz, that'll be the cafflick upbringing

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I'm mostly cheerful

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I am though...I rarely lose my temper and when I do its over in about 5 minutes or less...stuff irritates me but if i have a moaning then I feel better but as i said I've never been depressed in my life...and when the stuff I expect to go wrong does then normally i end up laughing cos it is funny now cos its happened so often.