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I feel I've got to mention something very positive about your daughter. She's at 6 form. She obviously wants to make something of herself so I doubt she would willfully destroy that. Hand on heart, I never understood why my mother clucked around me, I felt it was my right to do as I liked and I was fearless as any other teenager. I think in about a year's time, she will be sticking to the brief and understand your anxiety much better.

cologne 1
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Originally Posted by cologne 1:

I feel I've got to mention something very positive about your daughter. She's at 6 form. She obviously wants to make something of herself so I doubt she would willfully destroy that. Hand on heart, I never understood why my mother clucked around me, I felt it was my right to do as I liked and I was fearless as any other teenager. I think in about a year's time, she will be sticking to the brief and understand your anxiety much better.

I agree Cologne  

Baz
Originally Posted by Baz:
Originally Posted by cologne 1:

I feel I've got to mention something very positive about your daughter. She's at 6 form. She obviously wants to make something of herself so I doubt she would willfully destroy that. Hand on heart, I never understood why my mother clucked around me, I felt it was my right to do as I liked and I was fearless as any other teenager. I think in about a year's time, she will be sticking to the brief and understand your anxiety much better.

I agree Cologne  

 

 

and me 

Dame_Ann_Average

Awwwwwwwwwwwwww Amythist

 

I'm a real bossy cow and laid the law down to my three (fortunately I had a husband to back me up) - they had a fair bit of freedom but I always insisted that they let me know where they were - who they were with and what time to expect them home etc. They always sort of understood that it wasn't a power thing - simply that I worried.

 

I know this sounds lame but - could you not get a nice mother/daughter card and just write down how you feel? Just explain that you're simply worried not wanting to control but needing to know she's safe.

 

It might not work, I don't know your relationship with her but ...........have a big (((((((hug))))))) anyway.

Soozy Woo
Originally Posted by Soozy Woo:

Awwwwwwwwwwwwww Amythist

 

I'm a real bossy cow and laid the law down to my three (fortunately I had a husband to back me up) - they had a fair bit of freedom but I always insisted that they let me know where they were - who they were with and what time to expect them home etc. They always sort of understood that it wasn't a power thing - simply that I worried.

 

I know this sounds lame but - could you not get a nice mother/daughter card and just write down how you feel? Just explain that you're simply worried not wanting to control but needing to know she's safe.

 

It might not work, I don't know your relationship with her but ...........have a big (((((((hug))))))) anyway.

I like that idea Soozy, it would have left me in tears if my Mum had taken the time to write down her thoughts and feelings on my behaviour at that age because even though I was being a bit of a twat I still had a good enough relationship with my Mum and wouldn't have wanted to upset her.

 

Ells
Last edited by Ells

Ok 10 years ago I was 17 and was a bit like this. Now I am a very mature, responsible  individual I can now use all my experiences to help others.

 

- Don't keep having a pop at her about it and telling her to report to you because that will make her even less likely to tell you. She thinks she's this big grown up adult now she's 17, she doesn't need to tell her mammy where she is. (a 17yr olds mindset)

- If you want her to do something, make her think you want her to do the opposite. When I was 17, if someone told me to do something, I would go out of my way to either not do it or do the opposite. (I still am a bit like that to be fair). Maybe try a bit of reverse psychology.

- Try and get intel from her friends. Set up a fake facebook account, add some of her friends. Gradually expand your intelligence network.

- Put a tracking device on her phone without her knowing 

Crunchy Nuts

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