i have serious dad problems too. 

I cannot stand my father in law (with good reason) - so glad he wasn't my Dad.

My dad would have been 80 today - he died far too young aged 58.

My Ex mother in law, horrible woman that can't keep her nose out of other peoples business

YES!

The OH's dad.

My sister.

My cousins

My 3 Aunts

My uncle

They're all Berkshire Runts but the rest are all fine.  Well, they'll do

Couldn't abide my father and felt nothing when he died. (In fact I had to be talked out of dancing on his grave such was my dislike of him) I dislike his family as well with the exception of one aunt-in-law and her children but the rest of them I refuse to have anything to do with 

The rest of my family I like 

it's sad Soozy when we lose a family member too soon 

 Soozy 

Most of them at one time or other, but I get on well with all of them!

Ex in laws - all of 'em.  

Nowadays I sleep easy; they don't. 

Soozy 

Soozy 

Only once, and I haven't spoken to her since, but I do miss her in my life and tried to make the peace last year by inviting her to my 40th.  She didn't come.

since i haven't spoken to my parents or sister for 6 years the answer would have to be yes

Some. I have one older cousin, nearly 40, who has problems with her Dad (my Uncle). She has no problems spouting unkind words about him on facebook, but whenever confronted she always replies with "Don't wanna talk about it!"

Thank you all who gave 

I feel a bit embarrassed now . I wasn't after sympathy but thank you anyway

My brother is a nasty waste of space.

8 weeks ago there is a possibility I would have dived in this thread and had a moan about my Dad, and a mini moan about my Mum and probably my brother too.

Now it all just seems so petty..     

My Mum is dying...     I have just come from a bbq up at my parents, with my brother...    and I swear all the crap over the past years just really doesn't matter anymore.

Its not that I have regrets..   my grievances with them were valid..    its just that when the big shit happens all that unpleasant stuff seems irrelevant. 

Damn it...   I so shouldn't have typed this...    its destroying my ability to be strong & deal with it all..  

So am gonna hit "post reply" and run away

 just a huge hug from me, you know my past problems and you were a massive help thank you. 

Ditty  I know only to well what you are going through.I said goodbye to my mum in January and I think it's just hitting me now .I so want to see her face or just hear her voice.Take care.

Oh Ditty   Have a 

Ditts... 

and Erin 

I didn't know that erin. I was losing my mum at the same time and it's around a year ago earlier this month. 

Thank you....    I'm gonna be crap on here for a while...  I try & post...  but then I delete... 

I'm here, and I want to post, but you know...  what can I say...   

I know loads of you have been through what is happening in my life...    i really don't know how you did it... 

She's my Mum, she's only 64, up until 8 weeks ago she was fine... 

now she can't be left on her own for fear she will try to walk somewhere & end up falling over and we will find her lying on the patio in a pool of her own blood or on the kitchen floor, again.  She is confused, sometimes scared... 

we are now fairly sure she has cancer (primary unknown), which has metatasized to her brain.   She has been on steroids for years for rheumatoid arthritis, and it would seem that this may have masked any symptoms of the primary tumour

This year started off well for us...  I take a small bit of comfort in the fact that I knew this at the time...    now its all going so heartbreakingly wrong.. 

So....  whilst I will the be the first to agree that just because someone is related to you does not make them a nice person...      treasure times when all the people you love are well & healthy..   I think that is pretty much the basic foundation for happiness. 

xxxx

Can't imagine what you're going through Ditty   

And the last sentiment is so true  

Ditty  

There are no words but I'm sure you know we're all thinking of you (small comfort I know). Look after yourself 

Ditty   I can`t find the right words but I know what you`re going through. My thoughts are with you and your family. Take care Ditty, we`ll be here anytime you need us  

Soozy  

erin  

Xochi  

Ditty 

Aww Ditty, my heart goes out to you.

Huge hug for you and your family, and always remember you have friends here if you want to talk.

Ditty..

Ditty m'honey xxxxx

SHIT Ditty, you poor, poor thing Yes, lots of us have been through it, but that just helps us to realise how bloody painful it is and what hell you must be going through right now. Enjoy every moment you have left with her honey and do whatever you need to do. BIG BIG hugs and best love, Supes xxx

what supes said ^^  have been struggling all day to find words for you  but supes has covered it well

big  to you all and you know we are here for you 

thank you...   all of you...    I've been really touched by how lovely everyone has been.

Mum had the CT Scan today, which confirmed she has lung cancer & secondary brain cancer.

they've kept her in hospital..        They're biopsying her lung tumour on Monday & then on Tues or Weds they'll draw up a care plan (pallative or chemo/radiotherapy)

its all happened very very quickly...    twas only a week ago today when she collapsed on me & was suddenly very confused that we realised something was very wrong,   she had been feeling sick & had no appetite for the last 8 weeks..  and had been to the GP (and a second GP) numerous times..  they were insistent it was anxiety - incompetent dickheads! 

(yeah, I know..    some of the devastation I am feeling is leaking out in the form of anger towards the GPs who kept dismissing her...  & yeah, I know there's no point to it..   but right now I am sooooo hoping I might bump into them in the street) 

Anyway..  thank you again... 

oh god..  I still can't believe this is happening ..  

Ditty

Whatever gets you through, Ditty - and everyone else who's struggling with bereavement on here.  Can't say the right thing but please know that I'm genuinely sorry to hear about what every one of you is trying to cope with.  

Ditty, that's exactly the same as my mum. Everyone's different I know, but, if you need to talk, you know where I am 

Ditty, been there. I would have my mam's doc hung, drawn, and quartered if I could. 

I can cope a bit better knowing he's in jail now as has been struck off due to fraud. (Not medical related) 

Hang in there. You'll get through it like we all do.