Right, here's the story in a nutshell....
A few months ago the OH's Son who lived with him did a flit during the day (when he was at work) taking loads of furniture and owing him lots of money, the row they had was because the Sons GF was camping there for almost 2 months, had no intentions of working and running up bills. The OH said she needed to pay her way as well, and his son and her thought she'd get a free ride.
Slowly but surely we have replaced stuff (I don't live with him BTW) and things are pretty much ticking along nicely.
Over Xmas & New Year my SIster has moved to Brighton with her fella and helped us out with loads of stuff. A massive fridge freezer, brand new bedding (a ÂĢ60 duvet), that kind of thing....
His friend stayed between Xmas and New Year as they got snowed in one night and couldn't move the car etc...I couldn't get up there so I though great, company for him...his friend hasn't been home since and is going to give up his flat (he was losing it anyway) and lodge with my BF.
This week his friend has has a rotten stomach bug and has been sleeping in our brand new duvet without even offering to put a cover on it! I know it sounds petty but I didn't get the stuff off my Sister for his benefit and I find it shocking that he didn't even think to go home to his flat while he had such a nasty stomach bug.....I walked in the house the other night and it smelled rotten, so bad i was almost sick!
My BF said he'll make some house rules and that's fine, it's his business BUT, I went round last night and all the lager and food i bought have gone!!!!
I told my BF that I simply want the whole bathroom, kitchen bleaching and I refuse to clean after his mate, I also refuse to put food & alcohol in the cupboards if it's not there when i need it!
His mate also has 2 teenage sons who stay with him every other weekend...so it's going to be tricky for us to be at his over the weekend as I really don't want to be bumping into whoever in the middle of the night...etc....I already feel like a visitor there now with his mate sprawled over the couch talking shit all bloody evening.
The BF does stay at mine but it's quite far away and as he works weekends and is up very early during the week, it's not really practical for him to stay at mine when he's working....time wise, travel wise and petrol cost wise (while he's struggling)....
Once again, I know it may seem petty but I am livid that his friend has been stinking the house out all week when he has his own flat to go to, even if it's just while he's ill. He hasn't been home for a change of clothes in the 2 weeks he's been there and when i asked my BF when the last time he had a bath was, he said he's not sure if he has! Seriously, in 2 weeks!!!!
My BF thinks I'm being daft and over-reacting but if he's not changing his damn clothes (and he was stinking of BO last week)...what else is he not cleaning!!!
I am so angry....
A few months ago the OH's Son who lived with him did a flit during the day (when he was at work) taking loads of furniture and owing him lots of money, the row they had was because the Sons GF was camping there for almost 2 months, had no intentions of working and running up bills. The OH said she needed to pay her way as well, and his son and her thought she'd get a free ride.
Slowly but surely we have replaced stuff (I don't live with him BTW) and things are pretty much ticking along nicely.
Over Xmas & New Year my SIster has moved to Brighton with her fella and helped us out with loads of stuff. A massive fridge freezer, brand new bedding (a ÂĢ60 duvet), that kind of thing....
His friend stayed between Xmas and New Year as they got snowed in one night and couldn't move the car etc...I couldn't get up there so I though great, company for him...his friend hasn't been home since and is going to give up his flat (he was losing it anyway) and lodge with my BF.
This week his friend has has a rotten stomach bug and has been sleeping in our brand new duvet without even offering to put a cover on it! I know it sounds petty but I didn't get the stuff off my Sister for his benefit and I find it shocking that he didn't even think to go home to his flat while he had such a nasty stomach bug.....I walked in the house the other night and it smelled rotten, so bad i was almost sick!
My BF said he'll make some house rules and that's fine, it's his business BUT, I went round last night and all the lager and food i bought have gone!!!!
I told my BF that I simply want the whole bathroom, kitchen bleaching and I refuse to clean after his mate, I also refuse to put food & alcohol in the cupboards if it's not there when i need it!
His mate also has 2 teenage sons who stay with him every other weekend...so it's going to be tricky for us to be at his over the weekend as I really don't want to be bumping into whoever in the middle of the night...etc....I already feel like a visitor there now with his mate sprawled over the couch talking shit all bloody evening.
The BF does stay at mine but it's quite far away and as he works weekends and is up very early during the week, it's not really practical for him to stay at mine when he's working....time wise, travel wise and petrol cost wise (while he's struggling)....
Once again, I know it may seem petty but I am livid that his friend has been stinking the house out all week when he has his own flat to go to, even if it's just while he's ill. He hasn't been home for a change of clothes in the 2 weeks he's been there and when i asked my BF when the last time he had a bath was, he said he's not sure if he has! Seriously, in 2 weeks!!!!
My BF thinks I'm being daft and over-reacting but if he's not changing his damn clothes (and he was stinking of BO last week)...what else is he not cleaning!!!
I am so angry....
I'll speak to him tonight then give it a few days....if nothing changes then I'll have to make some changes I guess...as I said, I'm willing to give it a go but my OH needs to be a lot tougher and, if he can't be then i guess his choice is made...
I know it's abit of a Taboo subject trying to tell someone to be abit more hygienice but there are nice ways to go about it like...
