No you are not lame.

 

I avoid most people at all costs. I stick with who I can trust.

 

And that's what I'm gonna do for the rest of my days.

 

Cannae be bothered with the weighing up, pigeon holing, competitiveness.

 

You did the right thing Chicken - don't trust them then avoid them.

 

Hope you're doing well - and don't dwell on it.

 

Take your own path - not someone elses 

Thanks velvet. i feel really bad tho. its not that i dont trust them , they were really good mates , but just seeing them would bring back a lot of bad memories ( not of them ) and i just want to put all that happened behind me.

 

Feeling low about the whole thing  

One of the wonderful things about getting older is that you can do (within reason!) what you choose to do.

 

I reckon you made a good choice Chicken

 

Enjoy whatever you do instead

No, you;re not crazy. I think you did the wise thing by not putting yourself in a situation that you don't feel comfortable with and will bring you unhappiness. Tbh, I would do the same as you and I'm not crazy 

 

Have a good evening doing something you enjoy 

Thanks guys , ill just be sat at home most likely lol 

If they are true friends they'll understand you don't want to open up old sores Chicken. They'll know what you went through.

 

I had a wee incident four years ago that changed my life. I too avoid the triggers now - exactly as you did.

 

Just let your pals know how you felt about it.

i just said something has come up and i cant make it. i said hopefully can see you soon. I didnt want to go into detail

Big Brother is on later, if that helps 

 

Try not to dwell on not going out and be confident you have made the right decision for you 

Thanks San I'm sure I've made the right decision really 

Understandable.

 

You protected yourself.

 

There's a whole wide world after Uni and to me you sound like a great guy.

 

Put it behind you and plot your way up the ladder  

Thanks velvet , appreciate the support.

Nope I think you've made the right decision Chicken - the right decision for you 

 

 

I had a terrible time on a uni course a few years ago and although I'm still friends with a lot the people from that course, I chose who I would see and who I don't want to (I'm going to lunch with one tomorrow as the crow flies) anyhoo.  I don't want reminders of that terrible time and I take control otherwise it ends up with those that supported the witch I had trouble with making snarky remarks and making everyone uncomfortable and I'm not prepared to put up with that again.

 

You do the best thing for you but don't cut your nose off to spite your face - see who you want to see for lunch or down the pub on your own terms 

Chicken if you feel that way you'd be better off making new friends and keeping in contact with the ones before uni. There is no point in making yourself feel down. You've done something fantastic, now trust your insticts.

I agree with everyone else Chicken ... if it didn't feel right then you were right not to do it . Like others have said you've done brilliantly , do don't be hard on yourself

Thanks for the support guys , still feeling sorry for myself tho in a low mood

Aww I'm sure it's just the fact it has stirred up old feelings Chicken .... but it will pass

 Keep your chin up, you have a lot to be proud of, Chicken.

And I agree with the others about going with your instincts and doing whatever is right for you.

Don't be.

 

You're young.

 

If I'm not mistaken you did criminology.

 

Pursue it.

 

Dream a little.

 

Look forward 

For what it's worth - no contact now with any uni "friends".

 

Just a phase Chicken  

i feel stuck in a rut. no direction , not knowing whats gunna happen or what im gunna end up doing. i dont like it

I know this sounds like psyco babble, but there isn't anything wrong with feeling low now and again, especially if you know why. Look forward, not back. Treat yourself to something you really like tonight or over the weekend and start again.

 

 

thank you cologne and everyone i knew i could come on here and get some advice! appreciate it

I think we can all feel that way sometimes.

 

But don't hold back.

 

Get your CV in for all opportunities that arise.

 

Believe me you'll come out the other side if you can absolve yourself of all rubbish and stay strong.

 

Tell yourself you're gonna move on.

 

Challenge yourself.

 

Don't give in.

Listen to the donkey.

Thank you donkey  

I set myself a goal when I left Uni.

 

It was a Triumph Spitfire  

 

Set your goals Chicken and be yourself  

Did you achieve your goal?

 

Donkey has given you sound advice, Prawn Cracker. If you studied criminology, wow, lucky you. There are so many options open to you 

Not lame ,I think it shows just how strong you are

You made a decision that was right for you.