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Originally posted by charmer:
i want to marry my OH, shes been married before, she reckons its crap..too much trouble to get out of etc..
ive not been married before..so..is she right?
she married a complete twat who left her as soon as he found out their son was 'not right in the head' (His words)
is marriage (sp) good or what?

Marriage to the right person is good. We have been married 41 years.

Remember it's not about who you can live with, but who you cannot live without.

Ask another day when I've not just had a blazing row

Yes it's fab

have you been to the pub again

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Originally posted by charmer:
i want to marry my OH, shes been married before, she reckons its crap..too much trouble to get out of etc..
ive not been married before..so..is she right?
she married a complete twat who left her as soon as he found out their son was 'not right in the head' (His words)
is marriage (sp) good or what?

I didn't want to get married, met my husband 11 years ago after a lot of sh1t in my life, he made me realise that there are decent blokes in the world, he proposed to me on Millenium night, but we didn't get married until '05, due to some financial problems. I can honestly say we are as happy if not happier than when we lived together.

Good luck.

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Originally posted by charmer:
i want to marry my OH, shes been married before, she reckons its crap..too much trouble to get out of etc..
ive not been married before..so..is she right?
she married a complete twat who left her as soon as he found out their son was 'not right in the head' (His words)
is marriage (sp) good or what?

it's not the Landlady in the pub is it?

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Originally posted by Senora Reyes:

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Originally posted by charmer:
i want to marry my OH, shes been married before, she reckons its crap..too much trouble to get out of etc..
ive not been married before..so..is she right?
she married a complete twat who left her as soon as he found out their son was 'not right in the head' (His words)
is marriage (sp) good or what?

it's not the Landlady in the pub is it?

we have our moments
she wont marry me!
the only reason im banging on is cos my nephew got married today-he's a bit older than me, maybe ive got the green eyed monster lurking

Personally and speaking from experience, I would only marry someone who loved me for me, and who loved my kids whatever their problems...

If she was only thinking about herself and focused on a total mingehead who only wanted to control her, then whatever!

Yesterday I wanted to to gouge my husbands eyeballs out..(though I quietly fumed, as is my way)

Today I think he's aces again.

You need many more aces days than gouges days. Simples.

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Originally posted by charmer:
i want to marry my OH, shes been married before, she reckons its crap..too much trouble to get out of etc..
ive not been married before..so..is she right?
she married a complete twat who left her as soon as he found out their son was 'not right in the head' (His words)
is marriage (sp) good or what?

Well it's been good enough for me for all these years but you need to be prepared to put a lot into it. You sound like a decent bloke to me and she has already had the bad so now it's her turn to have the good.

My daughter got married for the second time this year and she has a fantastic new husband so it can be done.

Good luck to you both, I'm sure you will stay happy together whether you marry or not and my love to the little boy

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Originally posted by Senora Reyes:

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Originally posted by charmer:
i want to marry my OH, shes been married before, she reckons its crap..too much trouble to get out of etc..
ive not been married before..so..is she right?
she married a complete twat who left her as soon as he found out their son was 'not right in the head' (His words)
is marriage (sp) good or what?

it's not the Landlady in the pub is it?

shurrup
she had a fat arse

by the way-she got the boot!
it turned out i wasnt the only 'mouthy gobshite' who had a go!
she got reported by a cop-but he did it official, he didnt have a whinge on a BB forum
apparantly she was 'due' to go
pub speak for she was sacked anyway

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Originally posted by charmer:

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Originally posted by Senora Reyes:

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Originally posted by charmer:
i want to marry my OH, shes been married before, she reckons its crap..too much trouble to get out of etc..
ive not been married before..so..is she right?
she married a complete twat who left her as soon as he found out their son was 'not right in the head' (His words)
is marriage (sp) good or what?

it's not the Landlady in the pub is it?

shurrup
she had a fat arse

by the way-she got the boot!
it turned out i wasnt the only 'mouthy gobshite' who had a go!
she got reported by a cop-but he did it official, he didnt have a whinge on a BB forum
apparantly she was 'due' to go
pub speak for she was sacked anyway

Nowt wrong with a bit o junk in the trunk hun..

If she doesnt want to get married again then love her enough not to pressure her.

i wanna get married just gotta find a bloke first

Yes. But you both have to believe the bit about "until death do you part". Otherwise dont bother.

Marriage is wonderful to the right person.

Married to the wrong person is hell. Married to the right person isnt. Simples

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Originally posted by captain marbles:
Yes. But you both have to believe the bit about "until death do you part". Otherwise dont bother.

believe me -i love her to bits- but its a case of once bitten twice shy..
someone spoiled it for her

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Originally posted by Skylark24:
Married to the wrong person is hell. Married to the right person isnt. Simples

are you married to 'the meerkat'

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Originally posted by Justafriend:
i wanna get married just gotta find a bloke first

me too shall we go speed dating

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Originally posted by charmer:

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Originally posted by Skylark24:
Married to the wrong person is hell. Married to the right person isnt. Simples

are you married to 'the meerkat'

lol no but been married and divorced and married again, altho didnt think i would after the first nightmare but you have got to trust havent you

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Originally posted by charmer:

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Originally posted by Skylark24:
Married to the wrong person is hell. Married to the right person isnt. Simples

are you married to 'the meerkat'

Found this picture on computermabob

i'll marry you slash charmer

Senor Reyes knew we were made for each, when I told him so..

Married for 4 years, both felt the time was right.

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Originally posted by PinkBabe1966:

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Originally posted by charmer:

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Originally posted by Skylark24:
Married to the wrong person is hell. Married to the right person isnt. Simples

are you married to 'the meerkat'

Found this picture on computermabob

i love him lol

My OH has been married before and engaged after that but I've never really wanted to get married. I know he would like to but it seems to me that lots of people only really do it for the wedding and, as that's my idea of a friggin nightmare day, I'd only ever agree if I could run away to Las Vegas and get married by Elvis.

But I don't have kids though so I suppose that's a different consideration.

Sometimes I wish I'd done things more 'normally' in my life and very ocassionally am a bit envious of people I know who had the huge wedding, hubbie with good job, nice kids, nice house etc. The 'normal' life.

But then mostly I think I'm glad I didn't.

Oops I rambled on a bit there.

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Originally posted by Skylark24:

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Originally posted by PinkBabe1966:

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Originally posted by charmer:

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Originally posted by Skylark24:
Married to the wrong person is hell. Married to the right person isnt. Simples

are you married to 'the meerkat'

Found this picture on computermabob

i love him lol

Did you know Sergei he have worms?

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Originally posted by Aimee:
i'll marry you slash charmer

i know i piss about on here, but i dont half love my girl
i hope someone feels the same about you

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Originally posted by charmer:

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Originally posted by Aimee:
i'll marry you slash charmer

i know i piss about on here, but i dont half love my girl
i hope someone feels the same about you

nah, i did everything back to front now free and single at 35 was with a right twat for too long and have the scars to prove it

I can vouch for marriage.Skive you can still go away and have the Elvis bit in this country that's what we did.Went down south and had all Elvis ballads in church.

forgot to say, i wish you and your o/h all the best

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Originally posted by charmer:

i know i piss about on here, but i dont half love my girl

Awww just watched Pretty Woman and now saw this.

Oh someone slap me FFS

how old are u charmer - and ur girl??? I have never married and I thank the lord that I didnt. Your outlook on life changes decade by decade you know Why do you want to get married?? What will be different from now (apart from the law bit which u WILL regret if it all goes wrong - and a name change - which can be done on t'net for about £20 these days). Marriage/wedded bliss is NOT what it used to be - til death etc - they should change the vows to 'til I meet someone better or I cant be arsed anymore' - u dont get many of that 'age' these days.

I wouldn`t push it Charmer - at least she knows you`d like to get married which is lovely in itself. Give it time.

I think she's right.

Marriage is for young 'uns, anyway.

Spooning really is enough,and if you want to be there, you'll be there, if not yer'll not. No mess. Lovely

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Originally posted by BARMY BRUMMIE:
how old are u charmer - and ur girl??? I have never married and I thank the lord that I didnt. Your outlook on life changes decade by decade you know Why do you want to get married?? What will be different from now (apart from the law bit which u WILL regret if it all goes wrong - and a name change - which can be done on t'net for about £20 these days). Marriage/wedded bliss is NOT what it used to be - til death etc - they should change the vows to 'til I meet someone better or I cant be arsed anymore' - u dont get many of that 'age' these days.

my nephew has got married today-it brought up the subject
it sorta made me think-WOW! im nearly 40, i wanna cement things-my OH is 40-been there-done that-got out of it unscathed-ish-and she dont wanna do it again, incase it goes tits up-maybe i dont blame her
but if she ever changes her mind-ive chosen a couple of nice tunes for our wedding

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No mess

I didn't put a proviso*.

There might be mess.

* I couldn't think of the right word, but you know.

If you want commitment - get a tattoo

never seen the point of marriage .....though i'm glad i've been asked

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im nearly 40

So am I, and I wouldn't want anything legal at my age, I'm with your OH.

You know I like you Charmer, just speakin de trut

Love is enough for now