It's all a different ball game nowadays, and I couldn't pretend to understand the rules, however in my experience if men are keen they won't leave girls alone. I don't like the idea of him comparing other women, and would advise you to get on with your life. There's someone for everyone out there. I know women are wired differently in these matters but try not to be obsessed by him and look elsewhere. You can't afford to waste time on someone without commitment.

I'm sure the Forum ladies will arrive with more and differing advice to my 60/70's theories.

Hi Sheryl 

 

Its hard to tell, but it sounds like he's either letting you down gently, or stringing you along. Maybe he doesn't want you to meet someone else and likes to think of you pining for him?

 

 Must be awful to be left in limbo like that.

 

I agree with Joe and Rog.

It sounds a bit like he won't commit to you, but is keeping your hopes alive in order to keep you in reserve, in case something better doesn't come along.

Time to stop waiting and hoping, and move on with your life.

 

 

^^^ this and most of the above to be honest  Personally I would try and keep a wide berth, he'll soon come running if you're the one..and if not, it gives you space to move on. Seems a bit like you can't live with and you can't live without...sometimes you have to let go to be in a happier place 

Bin him. 

Of course some of us were trying to let her down gently.

I hate to say this but if you're not 'the one' after 5 years together and he's still saying he's not sure, you can pretty much bet that he isn't gonna change his mind any time soon.

 

You deserve so much better and while you're pining over him, you could be missing out on the chance to meet the man that is right for you.  Dust those glad rags off and get out there meeting new people because he's so not worth worrying about 

Thanks for your advice everyone. I think you are all right in what you have said, but because I love him I am in denial and viewing the situation through rose tinted glasses. 

 

I suspect he probably is hedging his bets and keeping me in reserve in case it does not work out with anyone else, but if this is the case then why does he say he still has strong feelings for me and feels loyal to me even though we are not together anymore? He also says that I am the most special girl in the world and I will always be the one he wished he could have made it work with. 

 

It's like he says such lovely touching things to me, but his actions do not match up :-(

I would always judge people on actions rather than words: they tend to be more truthful!

What Yogi said.

Life is sooo short - don't waste time wondering. Move on.

Is this the new girl version of Bubbles? (with better spelling obv)

Has sheryl18 not been a member for ages?  I seem to remember the name.

I thought Sheryl18 was the one who sent pics of her bits to some bloke. . maybe it the same one. .  or is it the one who ordered some guy, who's name I've forgotten to answer his phone? Could even be both..

 

Maybe it is neither of those alters. If not I go with Cinds. Bin him..

 

 

Hmmmm... maybe its a double bluff and its you Crunchy *narrows eyes* 

I'm waiting for the floof references

Came over from channel 4 with us I think Cinds 

Snap Olls

What's a floof?

old forum word for lady bits...

I think you're right.

  Ta Kaffy. Shoulda known lol

YES! That's it.  Now I remember.

Please let's not go down that old road of names for the old mot like.

       
It would more likely be Cheryl rather than Sheryl if it was me