Daughter is home for 7 weeks for Christmas and I said to everyone it would go two ways, she would miss the freedom of having her own place or she love being home. The second has happened and she's decided that seeing as she is only in Uni two days a week she's coming home to live and keep her part time job here and just live in Leeds two days a week
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that happened to my oldest and then she dropped out altogether Aimee 
Looking in from the outside Aims, is this cause her dad's messing her (and you) around?
I've been waiting for that to happen as well, she just doesn't seem to have made a lot of friends there like she normally does, she doesn't like the course as there's not a lot of playing sport and she shares a flat with 3 others and she only likes 1 of them
Originally Posted by Aimee:
I've been waiting for that to happen as well, she just doesn't seem to have made a lot of friends there like she normally does, she doesn't like the course as there's not a lot of playing sport and she shares a flat with 3 others and she only likes 1 of them
Oh, can she move uni's?
Originally Posted by Sprout:
Looking in from the outside Aims, is this cause her dad's messing her (and you) around?
No, he's not involved in my life at all and hasn't been for years
Originally Posted by Aimee:
I've been waiting for that to happen as well, she just doesn't seem to have made a lot of friends there like she normally does, she doesn't like the course as there's not a lot of playing sport and she shares a flat with 3 others and she only likes 1 of them
it happens Aims... we left it to our daughter to make her own mind up and rather than see her unhappy I drove to the Uni and picked up all her stuff after Christmas 
Originally Posted by Aimee:
Originally Posted by Sprout:
Looking in from the outside Aims, is this cause her dad's messing her (and you) around?
No, he's not involved in my life at all and hasn't been for years
I just thought with the travelling/picking up and the phone bills and stuff....
Originally Posted by Tina:
if shes happy jue that's all that matters 
That's what I said to her, there's always a bed here for her
Originally Posted by Sprout:
Originally Posted by Aimee:
Originally Posted by Sprout:
Looking in from the outside Aims, is this cause her dad's messing her (and you) around?
No, he's not involved in my life at all and hasn't been for years
I just thought with the travelling/picking up and the phone bills and stuff....
He's a twat but she's used to it 
it wouldn't stop her doing uni
Originally Posted by Aimee:
Originally Posted by Sprout:
Originally Posted by Aimee:
Originally Posted by Sprout:
Looking in from the outside Aims, is this cause her dad's messing her (and you) around?
No, he's not involved in my life at all and hasn't been for years
I just thought with the travelling/picking up and the phone bills and stuff....
He's a twat but she's used to it it wouldn't stop her doing uni
PMSL!!
Originally Posted by Aimee:
He's a twat but she's used to it it wouldn't stop her doing uni
I think that's the universal name for exes, funnily enough mine ex does have the same name
Originally Posted by Dame_Ann_Average:
Originally Posted by Aimee:
I've been waiting for that to happen as well, she just doesn't seem to have made a lot of friends there like she normally does, she doesn't like the course as there's not a lot of playing sport and she shares a flat with 3 others and she only likes 1 of them
it happens Aims... we left it to our daughter to make her own mind up and rather than see her unhappy I drove to the Uni and picked up all her stuff after Christmas
Her friend from here that goes to the same uni has come home and decided not to go back and her dad has fetched her stuff back
Originally Posted by Dame_Ann_Average:
Originally Posted by Aimee:
He's a twat but she's used to it it wouldn't stop her doing uni
I think that's the universal name for exes, funnily enough mine ex does have the same name
Does he the funny thing is you'd probably like him but he's a twat
Originally Posted by Tina:
get in the loo rolls
I'm already back up to 12 a day
Originally Posted by Aimee:
Does he the funny thing is you'd probably like him but he's a twat
doubt it I was married to a twat I can spot them at 50 yards
Originally Posted by Dame_Ann_Average:
Originally Posted by Aimee:
Does he the funny thing is you'd probably like him but he's a twat
doubt it I was married to a twat I can spot them at 50 yards
23 yrs down the line and nothing he does surprises me, he owes thousands in CSA payments but apparently he doesn't work even though he comes here in his work clothes 
Can she not find a similar course nearer home? It will be hard to remain properly motivated from a distance I'd have thought?
Originally Posted by Aimee:
Originally Posted by Dame_Ann_Average:
Originally Posted by Aimee:
Does he the funny thing is you'd probably like him but he's a twat
doubt it I was married to a twat I can spot them at 50 yards
23 yrs down the line and nothing he does surprises me, he owes thousands in CSA payments but apparently he doesn't work even though he comes here in his work clothes
See, I'd be tempted to 'spill the beans' 
Originally Posted by Aimee:
23 yrs down the line and nothing he does surprises me, he owes thousands in CSA payments but apparently he doesn't work even though he comes here in his work clothes
take photo's, put your mobile on record Aimee, its the only way with men that won't pay towards their children
Originally Posted by Sprout:
Originally Posted by Aimee:
Originally Posted by Dame_Ann_Average:
Originally Posted by Aimee:
Does he the funny thing is you'd probably like him but he's a twat
doubt it I was married to a twat I can spot them at 50 yards
23 yrs down the line and nothing he does surprises me, he owes thousands in CSA payments but apparently he doesn't work even though he comes here in his work clothes
See, I'd be tempted to 'spill the beans'
I have been but daughter would never forgive me, I'd appreciate the money so much I've not had a holiday in over ten years but I wouldn't want to lose my daughter over money, he hasn't got it anyway
Aimee, whatever happens, I hope she'll be happy. If uni isn't for her, so be it, at least she tried it 
Originally Posted by Aimee:
I have been but daughter would never forgive me, I'd appreciate the money so much I've not had a holiday in over ten years but I wouldn't want to lose my daughter over money, he hasn't got it anyway
I see your point Aims, but if he's working........
Cards on the table......I think he's acting the goat TBH but that's only my opinion
Originally Posted by ~Sweet Winter Wonderland~:
Aimee, whatever happens, I hope she'll be happy. If uni isn't for her, so be it, at least she tried it
She's still doing the course but living at home mostly
your daughter is amazing because of you jue sod the dad and his money
the mother and daughter bond is the best
Originally Posted by Sprout:
Originally Posted by Aimee:
I have been but daughter would never forgive me, I'd appreciate the money so much I've not had a holiday in over ten years but I wouldn't want to lose my daughter over money, he hasn't got it anyway
I see your point Aims, but if he's working........
Cards on the table......I think he's acting the goat TBH but that's only my opinion
I know his dad is having to pay his rent and he's in serious trouble with people, so I'd be wasting my time
Originally Posted by Tina:
your daughter is amazing because of you jue sod the dad and his money
the mother and daughter bond is the best
Thank you it's amazing what she has accomplished coming from nothing, she will finish the course because she wants to be a PE teacher so much, money means nothing to me
On graduation day, you'll be very proud 
Originally Posted by Aimee:
Originally Posted by Tina:
your daughter is amazing because of you jue sod the dad and his money
the mother and daughter bond is the best
Thank you it's amazing what she has accomplished coming from nothing, she will finish the course because she wants to be a PE teacher so much, money means nothing to me
that's what my sons heading for ....all she needs is her mum by her side xx