£148,000 ??

 

Not if you neglect them

That's a political hot potato you've left us with there EC. I was brought up with the idea that you had kids when you could afford them. I think that my Grandparents belonged to the first generations who had reasonably reliable forms of contraception, although they would never have discussed things like that pre-war.

Predictable that the tax cut for the low paid, is yet again, heralded as justification for benefit cuts, that tax cut has paid for nearly everything the Tories are taken to task over.

 

 

I think the point you made there to me is a sensible one. The impression I get these days is that for some it's just the thing that you do. It interests me somewhat as I have a friend who is looking to conceive but is in a bad relationship with a level of abuse, from the outside you would not know, but I think the last thing they need is a child. I also know people who have established good careers and have planned in their children which to me sounds lie the best approach.

 

But yes GJ, it's a hot topic.

Call me old fashioned EC, but I think people in abusive relationships should concentrate on getting out of them.

Too many think having a child will resolve their issues

Agreed. But I've never understood the mindset of women who stay in the relationship, and of course unless I experience it I probably never will. I suspect it has something to do with control and lowering of self esteem, but in this case she is still a strong person with me and in public and it's sporadic abuse. I don't know I wish I did.

I may have mentioned it before but as my SIL escapes from one such relationship she seems to drop into another.

No, I can't say I knew that GJ. But sorry to hear that. There are some rotten fellas out there.

I honestly don't know how people afford to plan for kids! But here's what a good friend of mine with 5 kids told me once; "Put it this way- if I had 1 child, it would take all my money. If I have 5, it'll still take all my money" Well said IMO!