Sleep over in their room?
I don't allow it for the reason it's a very small house and my bedroom is next to my daughter's and I don't want to hear anything 
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She stays at his house but moans about it all the time I never asked my parents either
Lil AIms dad was allowed in my room but he never stayed the night
It seems quite the norm now but all of my friends I've asked have said no but then again we all have girls 
My Mum let me have boyfriends stay over. I really wish she hadn't. She thought by doing that that I would't stay out all night and that I wouldn't be up to much because she was next door. More recently though I feel she should never have allowed it at all. I shouldn't have been allowed to stay out late and go to bars as young as I did either. I made loads of bad choices (all my own fault of course) but I might have had a bit more respect for myself if I knew it was expected of me at least at home. Instead it felt like it was ok for me to do whatever I wanted because (I felt) my parents weren't bothered and were more or less giving me the go ahead by allowing boys to stay.
That sounds silly maybe but it's how I feel now.
I have sons so when the time comes that they want to have girls stay over then we'll have to talk it through and I want to let them know how I felt about my parents allowing it. I'm not saying I won't allow it after a certain age but I will definitely let them know what I expect of them.....and also will be letting the girls know that I'm not running a knocking shop.
Great post Ellis 
I suppose from a mothers point of view you're damned if you do and damned if you don't though Aimee.
God it's a nightmare being a parent sometimes.....who on earth decided I should be allowed to make these kinds of decisions when the time comes!? I don't want MY kids to look back and say I did it wrong
That's it Ellis we are always wrong
Looking back I bless my Mum and Dad for letting Mrs Jer stop over in my room. We just slept together though, i suppose we were too embarrassed to have sex unless the house was empty. That was early seventies. We wouldn't have minded m'son doing the same but he tended to stop at his girlfriend's place.
In't believe I'm replying to this - it's kind of difficult to explain and the only thing I'm gonna say is it just felt right.
My daughters ex boyfriend more or less moved in from the day she met him when she was 16. He had stayed over before as he was a friend of my sons before they got together.
I suppose looking back 'it evolved' he went from sharing my sons room to sharing hers.
They had a very loving relationship for eleven years a d I tnought of him as another son. It broke my heart (as well as my daughters when they broke up).
I don't k ow quite what would have happened if they'd xplit up early on in the relationship. I really don't think we would have zllowed a stream of boys staying over - I don't think she would have done that anyway.
I suppose every xituation is different - he just became 'one of us'.
Looking back 16 was so young - some of my friends wer really shocked at me - the thing is I would hzve hated the thought of them s eaking off and doing it down an alley or up at the park etc.