Originally Posted by Jenstar:
Originally Posted by Enthusiastic Contrafibularities:
Originally Posted by Supes:
, the idea that you've got to give something and you'll play safe by giving money or equivalent
This is actually what I do every year, sit down and write a bunch of cheques and stick them in cards on December 24th.
I've found that each year the family just ask for money as there is nothing they want present wise.
Personally, I have not had a present in decades. I always tell people I don't want or need anything - I do however get money.
But as for vouchers, I have no idea and I don't always trust these websites, I would rather deal with a bricks and mortar store.
You give everyone cheques and everyone gives you money? I don't see the point. It's what MrJen and his brother do every year on birthdays, it's like the same money is just going back and forth each time
You are spot on Jenstar, that's exactly what happens with our family. Christmas and birthday's money is just passed back and forth.
The point? - It's because most of us don't need or want anything and also now the kids have grown up, we can't be so bothered with the commercial con that is Christmas. We are not a religious family either.
Additionally, I don't think any of us want to receive gifts that are either unwanted or become unused (you could say we are very green in that respect).
As for cards, I keep them to a minimum, very close family only (and that's to hold the cheque or cash).
As you can probably see I don't dip into the other thread that is the Christmas one - I don't want to upset all those on here that like Christmas, because I don't really care for it, apart from the nice few days off and the odd film on TV.
I have to do christmas lunch to keep everyone on side, but I asked for pizza for a change !!
Edit:
The Point 2 - You have to do something on a birthday as you would end up falling out and it's a simple way to keep the peace. Generally everyone seems happy with the arrangements.
Also, not everyone in the family has as much income as the other, so we have always set a modest sum that everyone spends each Christmas and birthday. Believe me, when you know that your max spend on presents at Christmas will come to less than ÂĢ140, you feel very happy and relaxed about the costs.