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You need to sit down and talk to your girlfriend and tell her your worries. If it bothers you that much then you both need to sit down and talk to her parents too. Get it all out. Don't presume. It'll eat away at you. Get the truth even if the truth may hurt.  

 

And to answer your question...yes I've felt like shit. When my partner of 10 years went on a stag night then phoned me to tell me he wasn't ready to be a dad to our 5 year old twin girls. "nothing to do with you babe but I can't be doing with the dad thing. It's f**king my head up". Charming eh? We survived though and you will too if you face it head on. Ask the questions and put your mind at rest

Cagney

Aspergers isn't a bad thing pirate

 

My nephew has it and he's fine. He gets a bit obsessive about things but apart from that he's no different from any other child. It's a label but as I tell my sister in law....you can label one person not an entire generation.

 

Get a good nights sleep and deal with it tomorrow with a fresh head. I hope it works out for you both

Cagney
Originally Posted by Dame_Ann_Average:
Originally Posted by Rexi:

Her mate sounds like a right charmer pirate ... don't listen

 

 

just what I was thinking Rexi 

yep... bit of a shit stirrer by the sound of it.    Pirate, Cags has said it all - talk to your OH - you need to be honest and at least you;ll know what you're dealing with.     As for the aspy thing.. that's no biggie, surely, having a 'label' isn't going to make her a different person she's still your OH.   Hope you get it sorted 

Kaffs

Pirate, I won't marry my OH either.  Not because I don't love him or think he's a scrounger or any other reason other than 'if it ain't broke'.

 

I'm sure her family see that you care for her and help her raise her kid(s?) so I'm sure they know you aren't scrounging.  

 

As for the aspergers.....I'm not sure why she never told you, maybe she thought you'd see her in a different light or run off thinking it would be a lot to handle?  

 

Ells
Originally Posted by pirate1111:

kaffy & sprout youre right

and thank you for answers/comments

 

i'll ride this one out

 

id still like to get married though

 

human nature innit

my sister's mate's been with her man for over 40 years.. he kept proposing, she kept saying no....    he asked her a couple of weeks before her 60th birthday and she said 'Ok then'   I'm not sure who was most shocked, him, the kids, or her.    Lovely story though I thought - so don't give up, you never know - and there's Ells as proof that it genuinely doesn't matter to some women.  You're a good guy pirate, and I'm sure your OH knows what she's got 

Kaffs
Originally Posted by Ells:

 

 

As for the aspergers.....I'm not sure why she never told you, maybe she thought you'd see her in a different light or run off thinking it would be a lot to handle? * im not sure either..thats a whole different thing ive got to think about..its on my mind, but i'll keep it there instead of asking..off to bed/sofa

have a great evening everyone*..

 

pirate1111

Pirate I do understand though why you're pissed off, not telling you about the aspergers is something that would confuse me too.  I'd like to hope that honesty and trust are the basis of all good relationships and when you find out your OH has kept something like that from you then you've every reason to question it.

 

Night night x

Ells

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