I have never been on a dating site, no need as I am in a long term relationship,but, I do see that they are useful/helpful to some people.

For starters Carpet, don't call people guys and girls, men and women  is what people prefer, and if you are looking for a someone who you want to develop a long term,happy, trusting, relationship with then do not lie, just be your self and tell the truth. Lying does not bode well for future happiness.

Not been on one, but I know someone who joined you date or something when she got divorced.   I don't have any advice ... but I remember she met quite a lot of guys for dates that didn't go anywhere but she's been with a guy now for about 8 years that she met through there.   If nothing else she got a few good nights out before she met him... I don't think she had any horror stories, but I'd just say the usual rules apply about only meeting somewhere busy and telling someone where you'll be etc until you decide you trust them... and if you really don't like someone just say you don't think it's going to work and move on.  Don't give out any personal detais other than an email address at the beginning then they can't really hassle you.

I met hubby online (chatrooms though..   not dating sites).... 

 

When my brother got divorced we signed him up to a speed dating site... only it wasn't speed dating as in a load of people in a room with ten mins to talk to each other...    you signed up to an event or holiday... 

 

my bro did a weekend sailing & met a girl on there, he saw her for a while...  he went on other events too.   He loved it...   it was social, and not as cringy as the one on one dating thing.

 

Oh ditts.. that's reminded me - I used to know a couple who met through Spice UK.   From what I gather it's not so much a dedicated 'dating' thing, but more an organisation for singles expanding their social circle etc - obviously though a lot of people do meet future parners there.   Lots of organised events, singles holidays and such like - she didn't join specifically to find a partner, just so happened that she did.

 

 

Never been on one Carpet, but if you find a rich 90 year old with blue lips that's not got much energy except to sign a will...ask him if he's got a twin brother 

 

Seriously, don't give out any personal information on line...if you meet someone, do it in a public place and  make sure he's been introduced to your friends/family before you let him into your home or you his. I'm sure most people are looking for some kind of relationship, but I'm convinced there are plenty of creeps that trawl these sites too 

Wot her Dameship sez 

 

 

we need triplets Pam 

 

I feel it is a bit sad when folk have to go to find a romance at a dating site, also dangerous IMO. Just my opinion but guess i will get earache about my comment.

Not earache Tori. Just as long as peeps know what they're doing and are sensible 

Of course in my day one joined a drama group.

 Local hop in mine.........

Dame, you do realise I'm male!!!   And looking for a female.

 

Thanks for the advice so far everyone!

 

 

 

 

 

 

I am so sorry  

 

 

you don't happen to be 90, have blue lips and loaded are you.....  I'm divorced grown up kids...a/s/l 

 

edited to say, that was a joke by the way 

hahah.. the friend of mine that joined Spice said she tossed a coin between joining Spice and joining the local drama group.   No lie! 

Trust me! You stand just as much chance of being cast as Ernest against Gwendolen, played by the girl of your dreams, as you do when following the advice of my FM charlatans. As a bonus you may find that the flighty forty year old playing Lady Bracknell fancies a fling too.

we should start a group here, i'm single 

 

 

I think we are better off Aims.... lets start a free and single group 

Oh i agree  i like being the boss in my house 

 

me too..men who needs the headaches  

^^^^^^  absolute proof that Dame has been round the internet block a few times 

I used to think " why are they all calling each other that ?! " 

 

my knowledge of A/S/L came from AOL quiz rooms....it took me about three years to work out what it meant 

 

 

I though they were insulting me saying my answers were limited 

yeah yeah yeah....   I believe you Dame...  millions wouldn't 

What does a/s/l mean please ?? If it's not rude

age/sex/location

 

it was basically the opening line when talking to anyone in chatrooms... 

 

it would be..

 

"hi"

 

"hi"

 

asl?

 

"28, female, Essex,  you?"

 

"55, male, Essex"

 

At this point I would close down the chat box & block them for life! 

Oh I see ... Thanks Ditty

Thanks for asking that Q. Baz. I was too embarrassed. (over 21/yes please/the manor house)

ROFL You're welcome GJ..... 

I've never been on a dating site but if I ever was to I'd be looking out for honest answers.  Those 'I'm a 6'2, athletic build, dark hair, blue eyed adonis'  posters I'd steer clear of.  I'd find a more true to life answer more appealing  Not saying I'd respond to '5'2 internet obsessed gamer who likes staying in' post but something that says 'I'm not perfect but I'm not hiding it' would tell me that they wanted to be honest about who you were going to be getting involved with.  Tell them how you like to spend your free time.  Everyone likes doing different things so you could probably cut out unsuitable partners by telling them from the off that you like pubs/nightclubs and meals out or museums/historical places and cosy evenings in.....whatever floats your boat.  I'd be more inclined to contact someone who shared similar interests to me than someone who wanted to go kayaking on a date!

 

Good Luck Carpet....hope you find someone special! 

hahahaha

 

You'd have gone down a treat in the old MSN rooms...  

 

sadly they are no more...    Microsoft shut them down.

 

 

The whipped cream & leather fetish room was such fun as well