It is hard Aimee..     I cried bucket loads..     I was a total mess sometimes. 

but you know how these things work...    days turn into weeks, weeks turn into months..   & then all of a sudden you realise you have adapted to the change!

(then..   3 days after that..   they throw the next big change at you )

Hmmmmm, where do I start! 

My eldest never did the 'tactile' stuff, in front of me, but I spent many a night trying to wake up inebriated oiks, either to drag them down to the sofa, or kick them out in the street, before Mr Blizz, or the younger siblings woke up.

Then, when she had an accident and was burnt, Mr Blizz decided to set up a camp bed next to hers, for her boyfriend. At that stage, she could do no wrong (plus she couldn't do much else), so all the rules went out of the window!

Now, she is 21 and has a lovely boyfriend, who she's moved in with him. I'm guessing that they've got to the stage where they might be thinking about having the secs. 

Aimee they probably prefer  to sit in the bedroom to have their own space and to give you yours watching telly or listening to music or just talking,I doubt very much they will be doing something they should not knowing you could pop into the bedroom at any given time, having two sons and two daughters I do believe..a son is a son until he gets a wife ..a daughter is for life try not to worry it is all part of her growing up having a boyfriend and you are feeling a little bit vulnerable ..you will always be close ..your her mum

my mam says that

I have sons not daughters. They bring girls home but they don't kiss and cuddle in front of me. They usually pop their heads around the door say hello and head off upstairs. I know what they are doing, they know I know what they are doing but I just get on with what I am doing and let them get on with what they are doing. 

and mine

 i think i will follow what you do 

NOT THE SECS 

I think that's probably the best way to handle it 

(although you are fully entitled to have the "safe sex" & "no babies" talk at every available opportunity!   In fact..    as young mum's ourselves..  we are double entitled to give that talk to our daughters )

My mum just says, "Boys are so much easier than girls." 

Well, I'm sure make sure it's OK with us first. 

edit - I mean they'll ask for our permission, otherwise that sounds a bit wrong! 

I've told her i'm too young too be a granny and that i'm still young enough too have another baby myself, she looked abit green around the gills when i said that 

hahahaha!  

Yeah..   MrD keeps saying that we are going to have a baby, a baby girl..   as Ickles room is gonna be available soon!    She goes nuts!   NO BABY GIRLS ALLOWED! she screams.

(although apparently we are allowed to have a boy!)

(just for the record..   I ain't having anymore babies!!   MrD had a 5 year window of opportunity when I married him 7 years ago.    I was dead releived when his deadline was up & he still didn't want a baby.   So that's it now!   Shops shut! )

Aimee you do have the higher hand here  in that ,no child what's to see or read that their parent has been doing the biz.She hasn't saw you paw all over a man ,or had to read about it,.but by the same token let her live.don't smother her,don't try and choose her partner,you raised her.you have to trust her.

And what about the sons ,Oh I stand corrected.you'd feel less guilty  have your dogs bits off than your poor lads,Dogs safe,poor son is doomed