It is a hard one to answer but if someone was shouting at me I would walk away ..if someone was being totally unreasonable just for the sake of causing an arguement I would calmly try to put them in their place.. if it was someone on a forum I would eventually ignore/blank them..life is to short ..
Depends on how im feeling and how much someone has pised me off. Most of the time i get my point across without a raised word sometimes i bite back without thinking about it, rarely in an explosive way unless im tired and annoyed at something else already.
I usually manage to calmly handle situations before they get to an exploding Jen point but i have been know to let rip
It is a hard one to answer but if someone was shouting at me I would walk away ..if someone was being totally unreasonable just for the sake of causing an arguement I would calmly try to put them in their place.. if it was someone on a forum I would eventually ignore/blank them..life is to short ..
Yip, i have been known to give out better than i get, but eventually will just blank. Best way.
It is a hard one to answer but if someone was shouting at me I would walk away ..if someone was being totally unreasonable just for the sake of causing an arguement I would calmly try to put them in their place.. if it was someone on a forum I would eventually ignore/blank them..life is to short ..
Yip, i have been known to give out better than i get, but eventually will just blank. Best way.
yeah, thats me to a tee
conflict really upsets me, so I do my best to avoid it, I think I'm pretty laid back... that said if people piss me off enough for me to cut them off they don't really get a second chance. I sometimes wonder if I'm too harsh, but then I justify it by thinking life's too short to waste my time with shitty friends and drama queens 
Yogi, I just noticed you changed your pic. I love it! Aww, what a cutie!
Forum land is different, i avoid the rows/people i dont like as much as possible and have only really bitten at the bait 2/3 times since 2003!
Jen* 
I don't know how many times i have bit.. Dame is keeping count 
but i'm a good girl now 
Life is really to short to let some people bother you.
It is a hard one to answer but if someone was shouting at me I would walk away ..if someone was being totally unreasonable just for the sake of causing an arguement I would calmly try to put them in their place.. if it was someone on a forum I would eventually ignore/blank them..life is to short ..
Yip, i have been known to give out better than i get, but eventually will just blank. Best way.
Well i have been considering all this and ive decided im going to be more assertive. If someone hurts me / upsets me. Im going to tell them. even if its my best friend/ family.
Its funny, i will go all out for something i think is right and happily argue my case till i get the result i think is 'RIGHT'. But i have to say thats few and far between and its usually a clear case of this just cannot be allowed to go on.
When it comes to firends and family i sort of forgive and quietly let it eat me up. I think therefore i come accross as just dead 'nice' and so im sure get treated worse for it because they know i never say anything.
No more im deciding im sticking up for myself *wormturningsmiley*
I resolved my lifelong conflict with my mother by cutting her off entirely. Have not seen her since Christmas 2009 and not spoken to her since February last year. That also means I'm no longer in contact with any of my family, as she has always made sure they were in her "gang" against me.
~shrugs~ 
I stopped talking to my sister in 2006, have to say my life is much better without that feeling im being taken for a mug left right and centre.
The situation upsets my OH. as I broke off contact due to my mother's upsetting and unreasonable behaviour, but the OH expected her/one of them come round and to try to resolve it. They haven't, which is exactly what I was expecting. Not worth a light, any of them.
It's a shame, but my life is so much less stressful now I'm no longer the constant butt of her criticism.
Toid, with family like that, who needs family!
Well i have been considering all this and ive decided im going to be more assertive. If someone hurts me / upsets me. Im going to tell them. even if its my best friend/ family.
Its funny, i will go all out for something i think is right and happily argue my case till i get the result i think is 'RIGHT'. But i have to say thats few and far between and its usually a clear case of this just cannot be allowed to go on.
When it comes to firends and family i sort of forgive and quietly let it eat me up. I think therefore i come accross as just dead 'nice' and so im sure get treated worse for it because they know i never say anything.
No more im deciding im sticking up for myself *wormturningsmiley*
**watches back**
Toid, with family like that, who needs family!
True, Blizz 
Luckily, the OH's folks are lovely.
True, Blizz
Luckily, the OH's folks are lovely.
That's good.
Toid, with family like that, who needs family!
True, Blizz
Luckily, the OH's folks are lovely.
That's all you need by the sound of it.
How do I handle conflict? In a word ~ badly. I either burst into tears or go into a raging tirade (happily its the teary option most of the time). It's weird tho because I always talk friends with conflict problems thru it with ease!
Why can't I take my own advice?? For some questions there ain't no answers.
How do I handle conflict? In a word ~ badly. I either burst into tears or go into a raging tirade (happily its the teary option most of the time). It's weird tho because I always talk friends with conflict problems thru it with ease!
Why can't I take my own advice?? For some questions there ain't no answers.
grrrrr............(Sniff)....you ate all the cornflakes................... Who stole my towel??....
