sorry for having a moan

but i was in a good mood before this shit happened

got no one else to tell

so ive told you lot lol

Oh dear, not good pirate  moan away 

That's awful. You're a good man taking on two kids with Autism/Aspergers .................it really can't be easy. 

 there's not much I can say to make you feel better Pirate, but I understand why you are so pissed off. 

Oh no Pirate That's awful....

Sorry to hear that Pirate....must be tough for all 4 of you   I've got nothing useful to say because I don't know much about Autism/Aspergers but I'm guessing the wee boy must have been pretty frustrated to have trashed his room.  Let everyone cool down then chat to your GF about how to deal with it. Good luck xx

All I'll say is this. Don't you dare buy him a new lap top .......................let him know the consequences of his behaviour.

He might knock down the house.

Well then .......................don't buy him a new house 

So sorry to hear this pirate.

It must be so difficult for you.

As Soozy said (^^^^) you are a good man. 

Cannot comment on handling a child with Autism/Aspergers......

Feel for you tho Pirate......

I suspect this isnt the first time, pirate......wont patronise you with any opinion....just have a cuddle, and well done you , it cant be easy 

cheers for replies

OH is sobbing in bed

saying she's had enough

velvet is right-if you try to 'punish' him

he fights

he's put me in hospital a few times

broken ribs

nose

brain scan

etc..

i dont fight back

ah well

its all quiet upstairs at last

so i shall say 'nanight'

Nite pirate  

Pirate does he ever have respite care?  Maybe your OH should look into it if she's worn out with it all.  Go have a cuddle with her xx

bloody hell Pirate......tis not right!

do you not get any help ?

Hope things have settled pirate, much love to you and OH 

So sorry to hear this pirate.

Nite nite  

I remember when you told us about this situation over on C4 Pirate. You are one special person taking on not one but two children, who must be grown up now. I have often wondered how things were going with you and the family, but until you mentioned it I didn't want to bring it up. Hope you and the Mrs will be ok, and I too know nothing of what you are going through, but like others here, have a hug and go cuddle the Mrs.

Pirate that's awful, but a quick question, who gave the eldest the money to go out and get pi**ed up?

Pirate, I'm so sorry to hear this.

for your OH, too.

Aww Pirate, hope you have a better day today x

sometimes I get right fed up with the usual ups & downs of family life...    I think to myself "bloody hell...  there is always something..."   I have an 18yr old & a 13 yr old.    they don't have aspergers or autism or anything...      and reading your post Pirate makes me realise that I have it Easy Street, and I should be bloody grateful for what I have.

So...   no more stressing about the (what I now realise to be) little things in life for me... 

Pirate & Mrs Pirate -  Respect! xxxxx

Awww Mr Pirate.  So sorry to hear of all your troubles.  (((HUGS))) to you all

just wanna say thanks for replies

all is quiet for now

his mom had to loan him her laptop

while she's paying for his to be fixed (dont ask-i didnt)

he gets money because he's on DLA-his mom monitors it

he has a certain amount to spend

the family are quite well off and he has a savings account

nothing to do with me-ive never asked

i just keep out of it now

money is spent/given to him like its water

same with the younger bro

ive said their making a rod for their own backs

but im ignored

wait 'til the zombies get 'em on saturday lol

Oh wow Pirate. Just seen this thread and it's replies. *Admiration* for you both and go on.......have an 'ug' too.     I don't give them out willy nilly you know    I'm noted for it. Just ask in an odd few threads and a few will give you the truth  

i will take that ug and raise you a cuddle lol

ta

anyway

it was just a reply to say thanks for your concerns

no need for anyone to add anything

just as long as you all know i was grateful for you to bother to reply

*at ease* now men

(Sorry to reply but, glad to hear all is well at the moment pirate   x)  

Lordy youre such a troublemaker..lol

thanks

x

Oh she is   

*whispers*

i know

anyway-best not reply anymore cos it bumps it the top

but ta

A bump and a cuddle 

Pirate, I've just read your reply, and I hate the thought that you have no say, if you live with your partner and her children, then you surely have a right to have your say.  I've been there, I've done that (not with autistic or aspergers kids), but regardless it's your house too.  Everyone that lives there needs to be considered.

Yeah, you raise a good point Cinds I just hope it works out at the minute and in the end for all of them