I know...   but tbh there's this grubby feeling of shame I feel about it all.    I KNOW its unfounded..   I KNOW it wasn't my fault..   its kinda intermingled with the then breakdown it all caused (so mental health stigma too).

 

I "disappeared" off the radar from all the people I worked with (no small feat when you consider I worked for the hospital trust & the PCT in my town - my family & I didn't see a doctor for 5 years...  apart from Mr ditty taking the kids to the Walk in Centre twice)....

 

When I finally ahd to see a GP last year when I had the trapped nerve..    I knew she knew of me...  but thankfully she was a good un.    And... she sends all my bloods & my hospital appointments to the trust in the next county. 

 

I know there are people back at the old trusts that would give me glowing references...   but as I said..   I still feel this stupid shame thing!  

No Ditty don't! it's others that pushed you to it remember? 

Suzy...at last.........my fella is finally taking it seriously. He is actually GOBSMACKED and I daresay ashamed (deeply) at not believing me.

 

CAN U IMAGINE HOW A CHILD MUST FEEL WHO IS BEING ABUSED WHOSE PARENT DONT BELIEVE THEM.......WHAT A HORRID HORRID  THOUGHT......It actually makes me feel guilty for what's going on in my head.....Analyse that!

I know mate x And I think it's cos you never got the justice you deserved from the situation, she was never hauled over the coals for it, so you feel a weakness for walking away. But what you did was right for you at the time and what you need to try and remember is that people like her can only last for so long before it comes back and smacks them in the face. What she did to you will happen to her (if it hasn't already), I'd bet my house on it.

 

Things like this can leave people scarred to the point that the thought of working anywhere else is terrifying, but you're in a better place now in every aspect and you'll surprise yourself at how strong you've become if ever anything like this were to happen again (although hope to God it doesn't) x

Some years ago I made a stand against someone who was bullied in the workplace (only after she walked out) - my life became uncomfortable afterwards - I was only really working for the company/social side. I left simply because from a financial perspective I didn't have to work.

 

I'm glad I made a stand because it was horrible seeing someone bullied. Unfortunately because I'm the sort of person who simply doesn't get involved in 'office gossip' I didn't see it earlier. When I did see it - it was too late (for the person concerned).

yeah...    *nods*   

 

I do believe in karma  (no pun intended )...    and yeah...    to the rest of this as well!

 

onwaaaaards  & upwaaaaaaaaaards!   

 

 

and Feck em all! 

I have felt the same, Its because I knew I could do the job standing on my head.....and feel ashamed that I let the stress that another person (most probably propelled by stress as well)  put me under, interfere with my work.....

Dont feel shame......go to 'time to change.org .uk' ......own your illness and ur half way there.

Also look at recent Government document 2011 'No Health Without Mental Health'

Nice bedtime reading x

I KNOW I shouldn't feel shame...   I KNOw I have nothing to be ashamed of...   honest, I truly know these things.

 

but that doesn't stop the feeling. 

ffs i KNOW wot ur feeling D.......DO WE EVER MOVE ON XXXXXXX

It is a feeling, but you know that you are a capable person...(believe me I am talking myself through this as I type).....you just could'nt work alongside the glory seeking Biatch!   

Oh yeah..........what goes around.......comes around and all that  

come on girls lets embrace our collective mental health stress problems. THERE IS NO SHAME. shame is your interpretationont DONT let stigma and discrimination grip you.

 

IT'S A SHORT TERM CHEMICAL IMBALACE DUDES. WE WILL GET BETTER

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I think the only way I can move on...  is to leave it all behind.    Hence why I would rather not go to any of them for references (even the nice people).

 

I begged hubby to move... for us to relocate..   but it really wasn't viable at the time.

 

I am getting there...   I rarely talk about it, and rarely think about it much anymore.   I will talk about it on here... more openly than in real life...   in this instance, because its important for people going through it to know its not just them...  its so bloody common.

 

 

yeah...   couldn't work alongside the glory seeking biatch with a face like a baboons rear end! 

I know that...   you know that...    some really high percentage of the population (that you probably know) know that... 

 

but its telling the others!!   

 

 

My hubby witnessed me going through it...      and yet he came home a few months ago slagging off a girl he works with that has had a breakdown...   calling her soft & a skiver!    and then he said "mind you what would i know...  I have had no experience of mental breakdown"

 

I just sat here..... gob falling open...     looking pretty hurt tbh!      I did say "how can you say that, you WIFE has had a breakdown"  and he made some appropriate backtracking noises... 

 

but its that kind of mindset.... 

 In my case....A cross between Cruella DeVille and Lulu.....with a sweet smile when trying to influence.......

Like I said Ditty.......those that haven't been through it...........I guess we have to forgive though. Chin up girl. You're on the mend now 

chin is up!  

 

 

more importantly...      you's lot still going through it..     CHIN UP!    we are here if you need us! xx

U need to talk bout it D its about finding the right avenue perhaps it is here........ for me too .....maybe

 

 

ps cant wait for new BB gal

 

enjoy ye kip tonight girl ......u deserve it be kind to yoself..cos u iz nice

hey sprouty one, dont drink too much vodka....like Me x

No fear, I'm a lager or wine girl   And I'm fine tonight (not a drop insight) 

I know....I know....I believe you 100% hear this......I BELIEVE YOU GODDAMMIT

 

i BELIEVE I Have made a 'connection' this evening. praise ye the lordy

be kind to urself cos others have been cruel..... u iz cool az f**k..... dont let anyone sell u short dont stop believing xxxxxx

Sleep well everyone....xxxxx

oh yeah...me understandee IMPLICITY....ffs

DONT STOP BELIEVING   .......BTW watch  glee xx

Glee was good last night... 

 

they did Keane - Somewhere only we know! 

In answer to the OP, no I have never.

 

And I loved Somewhere Only We Know!

So did I ......   had a right loud sing a long I did! 

Yep going through it now. At first I let her annoy me' and would bring it home but now I'm not biting but building up my own 'file'.  My thinking is give her enough Rope and she'll hang herself. Email is a great thing

In all my years here (6) I have never seen so many people off sick.

She doing the whole nicey nicey think at the moment which is worrying as I'm wondering what she has planned next!

keep the 'file' going with times,dates, exact conversation, who was there at the time and most importantly how the COW made you feel. Good luck.

Laters peeps. Off to 'occy health' to relive the crap again.