Never a set anount..,it always depends on if there's anything the other one wants and how much money we have at the time.

Usually about £500 we do a night away, a meal, cake, champers & gifts.. We always say we'll reel our necks in but never do!

If you  feel that you have been mean ,then thats a perfect indicator that you have been mean.It's not always about money.

Why dont you do something that does not require spending money,make her/him breakfast, run her/him a bath with candles and a glass of wine ,make her/him a CD of your fav songs.

Its not about money, a nice card and a nice gesture costs very little. Sometimes less means more

Totally agree, getting creative works just as well; I once made mr summer 8 cards, and sent them 8 days running- when all put together at the end they spelled out "I love you" <3 Baking a cake too is always nice

Our birthdays both fall around Christmas (as do most other family members). very, very badly planned - all children, ourselves, childrens OH's and grandchildren fall between October and January.

 

Therefore - I spend between £50 and £100 on my OH and vice versa. That's just how it goes. £100 is about our limit - on kids, grand kids - everyone. It can get silly really and I've never gone down that route .................it's not that I'm mean but ................as I say - it can get silly IMO.

i got her

3 really good books-£20 (whoever said to get 'room' i got that, thanks) one about 101 things about the titanic and one about a bloke called harris who made a kinda victorian or edwardian directory listing of local prositutes-i saw it on that 'mudmen' programme and she likes that sorta history thing

a jewelery making kit-£50-you can make proper neck chains-like the ones i wear (selfish present lol)

t-shirt-£18

angel perfume-£30

and got her a take away last night when the kids werent here-£20

and taking her for a drink

 

she gets breakfast on a tray every morning anyway *tut*

tomorrow i may serve it nude

 

 A medal for putting up with you??? Only kidding ! She will have a lovely day, i am sure xx

tomorrow i may serve it nude

 

 

You had to go and spoil it!!

If you bought me a bliddy book about the Titanic you would be wearing it.

Depends on age as you say Pirate, started off whilst courting spending loads (borrowing if broke)...lot of life in between...Now, if he has'nt got what he wants, he only has to look at me........

i dont have that worry as i int got a oh, but if i did have id spend on 1 big present something that they really wanted and then probably spend on some clothes for them, or aftershave i like

That doesn't sound too mean. Apart from subjecting her to your bits dangling beneath a tray, that's mean!

It's difficult when you have joint accounts. At that point you feel as though you are buying the shopkeeper/entrepreneur/businessman a present. Mrs Jer facilitated a joint trip to an away game last weekend. I usually do lots of domestic things for her.

nah, she collects titanic stuff, i know she hasnt got this one

You trying to put her on death row? Cos that's where I'd be if you dangled your bits in my face then minute I opened my eyes, let alone on my birthday

 

Looking at your list of gifts, I don't think it's mean. If it's stuff she wants then I'm sure she'll be appreciative.

 

In regards to expense, then that's down to how the couple live. If they enjoy the finer things in life then I'd imagine that's how they celebrate, equally if a couple live in a tent up on a hill somewhere then they probably get just as much joy on their birthdays as a couple who fly to Paris for dinner.

 

I do think these things need to be equal to a degree, though, especially if financial situations of both people are similar. There's nowt worse than going to a lot of trouble for your partner and when it's your turn you get a load of tat from a pound shop or summat that means frig all

  PMSL......so true...

true karma

i got stuff she likes

its like her parents are very nice but loaded and get her the big things-i just get her the inbetween things-the stuff she'd spot in a shop and say its nice etc..still wanging it around in the am with breakfast though lol

Christmas tends to be witnessed by other family members. So we buy all sorts of daft stuff from pound shops, wrap 'em up, and make gushing thanks. TBF I think that we have a better choice of poond shops than elsewhere.

 and if they react like that..well..

how much do you spend on your OH's birthday..?

 

Nowt! I ain't got one 

I see that I didn't explain that well! My OH and I buy each other faux presents to fool the rest of our family.

Oh, I dunno Joe........

You've put some thought into her gifts Pirate, and I think she'll appreciate that.

It isn't always the expensive gifts which mean the most.

The weighty Sellotape dispenser for a poond was one of the highlights and quite useful. Other sticky backed plastics are available.

I agree ..............it's not always about the money. It's thinking about what someone would really like. if you take heed throughout the year and can surprise with something that someone wants it's more special than spending shed loads on frivilous tat IMO.

If sprooot has better poond shops than us then I'll show my bare arse in Binns Window. Or Fenwicks if you like.

she loved her presents = result..!

 

she just skipped off happily down the pub

 

ps the titanic book went down well

 

see what i did there

 

His last birthday i took him to see elbow (my fave band) and paid for the hotel and dinner and drinks. The one before an xbox the one before erm can't remeber but I'm sure it was something with a plug on it, so we'll say for a run of the mill birthday around €200 to €250 and a big birthday around €500ish.

 

For my sisters we have a €50 rule for birthday's and Christmas, well there or there about.

   Very clever.    Happy Birthday Mrs Pirate...    I liked the sound of her prezzies... I'd rather have a bunch of little prezzies that I like than one big expensive prezzie.    How did the extra special breakfast surprise go down though...? 

Depends how much he has annoyed me in the run up to his birthday.

Varies, but the way I'm feeling lately, NOTHING on the next one..

Does money really come into it? TBH - you spend what you can afford on something you think they'll really like (within your budget) To put yourself into debt for a grand gesture is a bit stupid really.

 

Everyone on here has different incomes and lifestyles so to ask 'What would you spend?' is a bit daft really. It's all relative to the individual.

I get him whatever he wants. Last year was a £30 DVD boxset. Year before was a £100 watch. Year before was the cinema and a pizza. Whatever he wants. We don't buy for each other throughout the year. Only birthdays and Christmas. 

Don't really have a set amount, just buy what we think each other would want.  The most I have ever spent on him for a birthday (although I did say it was for Christmas too as his birthday is quite close (I did buy his Christmas crap too)) was £1750 on a watch he really loved.

 

Edited to add: It was his 40th birthday