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Basically , im living at home for the rest of the year and driving into uni when i have lectures etc. Here's why!

So it all started about 2 weeks ago. Me and my "mate" had a big disagreement. He didnt want to live with me anymore because of all the "drama" I cause i.e. because i was suffering from depression. Anyway he called me weak , pathetic and my life is a joke. He also had a pop at my parents , accusing them of turning me into a vegetable. He then went onto say that im never happy and i said dont  you think thats a bit sad? And he said a little but why should I have to deal with it? I shouldnt have to mummy you.
Then I said you always put me down and make me feel bad and he said something like yeah coz i enjoy it. Brilliant. 

Anyway the next day I was in the uni library and he comes over and as an attempt to reconcile he gives me books on counselling and how to be confident. He then bursts out laughing , obvs still taking the piss. So ignored him and he eventually left.

We hadnt talked or anything since Sunday night just gone. He started talking to me on facebook and  even tho he said he wanted to sort things out, he blamed me for the whole thing that happened. I said to him im not weak or pathetic and my life isnt a joke. He then went onto online how I am weak , pathetic and my life is a joke. I apologised for a comment i said coz it was a tad harsh but was said in the heat of the moment. But i didnt get an apology from him. 

I was still going back to the house sunday night , but after that happened I just thought this guy isnt worth it , my life is better than having to live with him. So here i am at home and we havent spoken since! tis sad coz he was such a good mate at one time. But he showed me who he really was , he was a big part of why i had depression i believe.

I feel much happier now, although i feel sad that it has turned out this way

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Prawn, wherever you feel most comfortable is the place you need to be, especially if you have the added pressure of studying. Take on board what you're flatmate said, but not to the point of putting yourself down darling, I think it helps knowing what other people think of us, but it does not mean that we have to go along with it and live our lives according to other people. You seem to me to have done the right thing, stick with it prawn, never mind other people.
cologne 1
Originally Posted by velvet donkey:
Delete him on Facebook too Chicken - get completely rid of the idiot.

I think you've done the right thing  
When you live with a friend, especially at Uni, its difficult. You see too much of each other...I've seen it myself... someone you liked... with too much time together, given time, you'll end up hating each other.
I don't think he was laughing at you, men find that sort of thing SO difficult and will laugh just from embarrassment / not knowing what to do. Men are useless emotionally speaking.

Keep going through Uni and expect troubles like this... brush them off. If you believe in yourself, the people who slip by you along the way to your goal, don't matter. Good luck - and you will make it.
FM
Hello Chicken. 
Thanks for coming to tell us your latest news.
The 'social' side of uni can be an important part of the experience for many, but if - in your case - it was having a negative effect then you are right to live without it.
I like what cologne said.
I hope you will be able to do your academic work in a conscientious and disciplined way at home without distractions.
(I often think Facebook does more harm than good.)
Yes, it is sad that things have turned out this way with your mate, but I note that you said you feel "much happier now", and that is good!
Be true to yourself Chicken.  Visit us whenever you get the opportunity.
Warm wishes 
brisket
PC, I'm sorry I was rude and unsympathetic to you on a previous thread.I apologise for it.
I went through Uni ( its four years in Ireland ) and kept it hidden... seeing the Uni Counsellor - but always putting on a good front for my friends. I thought that was the best way to get through. Looking back, maybe not.

People in RL don't react well, when you tell them you're depressed... No, no,no. Its just the way it is.
I can understand why you come here to talk about your condition... its a good outlet, you'll find caring and more mature peeps than you will find at Uni. Well done for being so honest.
FM

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