Maybe the little lads with overly gelled hair and stuff Kama?
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Boys clothes are quite boring compared to girls IMO
I was helping B buy stuff for his nephew recently in Gap and thought the boys clothes were so much cooler... they get all the robots and cars and monster truck stuff... the girls things were all pink and flowery and stuff
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I can see how it applies to girls, but am a bit stumped how boys can be brought into that?
These partially shaved hairdo's and pierced ears at five/six/seven aren't uncommon up here.
Apart from logos on the front boys clothes are dull. Grey, khaki, dark blue. Not that my son wants to wear pastel pink but he does like bright colours. Saying that he lives in his Man U top lately 
oh we got some quite bright colour t shirts from Gap Cags, bright blue, orange and red I think - B likes bright colours too The jumpers were darker colours, now I think of it
The jumpers were darker colours, now I think of it
I do think kids are growing up faster these days. I can only speak for my own kids but I know that they are watching/seeing/hearing completely different things than I did at their age. Times change and we change with them but there has to be a point where we...as parents say if it's gone too far. These things are available for sale because people want them and ask for them. Magazines and stuff are geared to a much younger age now and in some ways I think that can help kids rather than hinder them. It's always been about keeping up with the times. Peer pressure and bullying is and always has been rife in schools and fashion is one of the main causes. Hand me downs aren't acceptable now like they were in my day. It doesn't have to mean sexual and expensive though.
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mouse problem!!
I have the same problem coz I have a laser mouse and a shiny mouse mat. It has a lovely pic of a cat on it though so I keep using it
Saz - he's quite happy with his football top and whatever I buy him from Tesco.
I'll look in Gap though. I blame you if he costs me a fortune
I'll look in Gap though. I blame you if he costs me a fortune
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I have the same problem coz I have a laser mouse and a shiny mouse mat. It has a lovely pic of a cat on it though so I keep using it
I tell you Cags, the amount of posts ive typed out, reached for the mouse to hit submit reply and the side thats set to go back a page on the browser goes off and i blummin well loose the post! Then i cant be bothered to retype it half the time.... i'm waiting for the new one to be delivered
I keep banging mine. Did you just have a baby Jen? Or did I just make that up?
wasnt nice, you have too havent you?
Yep I did. He's 7 months next week. Teething and moody just now.
My girls and my stepson are 11 and I can see the differences already in respect of the times. I can't imagine what my son is gonna be wearing or doing in 10 years time.
My girls and my stepson are 11 and I can see the differences already in respect of the times. I can't imagine what my son is gonna be wearing or doing in 10 years time.
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the flower one is abuse!
Indeed.Only one shoe!!
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I do think kids are growing up faster these days. I can only speak for my own kids but I know that they are watching/seeing/hearing completely different things than I did at their age. Times change and we change with them but there has to be a point where we...as parents say if it's gone too far. These things are available for sale because people want them and ask for them. Magazines and stuff are geared to a much younger age now and in some ways I think that can help kids rather than hinder them. It's always been about keeping up with the times. Peer pressure and bullying is and always has been rife in schools and fashion is one of the main causes. Hand me downs aren't acceptable now like they were in my day. It doesn't have to mean sexual and expensive though.
This is so true, unless we wrap them in cotton wool ,which is not a good thing either, they are going to have to know what's out there and how to deal with it at one time or another.
I have both older daughters and younger ones, and can see the difference about the changes in our society from when my oldest was young to my youngest now.
Its finding a balance. There is no manual that comes with you - "How to be the perfect Mother"
we just know what's best for our children. As long as they have love, support, always being there, always advising and leading the way.
Its a hard rewarding job.
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Its a hard rewarding job.
It is but sometimes I think I'm being judgemental of others. I can sit on here and condemn mothers who dress their kids the way I see as unsuitable but as you just said.....as long as they have love, support and advice then who am I to judge? As adults we're always saying "clothes don't make a person" and it's what's on the inside that counts so it's sending mixed signals to kids to tell them certain clothes are wrong. It's not what the kids are wearing that's the problem....it's how the adults associate clothes with sex. I know I contradict myself there but it's difficult to get right. My girls want to wear strappy dresses to parties. On the one hand I'm thinking they look lovely but on the other hand I'm worrying who's looking at them and what they might be thinking. Do I let them wear what they want in the innocent way they intend or do I bow down to pressure and make them cover up and feel unhappy?
I get told often that my kids are too opinionated. I don't see it like that. I see it as a good thing that they think about things and question things they don't agree with. I explain to them about clothes but as they keep telling me. They'll be at high school soon and aren't babies anymore.
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I get told often that my kids are too opinionated. I don't see it like that. I see it as a good thing that they think about things and question things they don't agree with.
Snap.
The world I grew up in and the world today are so different. I loved wearing my mother's high heels around the house as a child, but there is no way my mother would have allowed me to wear high heels outside the house.
Face painting at a party is a lot different than allowing a girl of 8 or 9 to wear mascara and lipstick to school.
I think parents are afraid to say "no" to their children these days.
Face painting at a party is a lot different than allowing a girl of 8 or 9 to wear mascara and lipstick to school.
I think parents are afraid to say "no" to their children these days.
quote:I'll look in Gap though. I blame you if he costs me a fortune
Hope there's something decent now I've saidWe were looking at the toddler stuff, not sure what the older boy's things are like!
I'll read the comments another time.....CRAP programme, v v poor journalism.... opportunities missed GRRRRR
I am really against padded bras for 8-9 year olds, and girls wearing so much slap that they are barely unrecognizable, and so on...but teenage girls need to be free to express themselves, and if wearing a bit of makeup at 14/15 makes them feel confident and happy, so what? It's good to keep children children as long as you can, but you've got to be realistic; children will be influenced by their peers, and want to fit in with them, and if you try and restrict them, you'll get them resenting you, and rebelling.
I totally disagree with the poster who said that you can't be friends with your children though. Why on earth not? You can be friends with your kids, and still instill boundaries and put regulations on them and what time they come home and disallow smoking and boozing etc. So because you're a parent, you can't go to the cinema with your kids, or go shopping with them or play sports with them, and socialise with them sometimes, or be friendly with their pals or talk to them freely like you would with friends? Just because you're their parents? I don't get why not. Maybe people who say this, don't have a really open and secure relationship with their children and find it hard to communicate with them. I see no reason on earth why you can't be a friend to your children.
I totally disagree with the poster who said that you can't be friends with your children though. Why on earth not? You can be friends with your kids, and still instill boundaries and put regulations on them and what time they come home and disallow smoking and boozing etc. So because you're a parent, you can't go to the cinema with your kids, or go shopping with them or play sports with them, and socialise with them sometimes, or be friendly with their pals or talk to them freely like you would with friends? Just because you're their parents? I don't get why not. Maybe people who say this, don't have a really open and secure relationship with their children and find it hard to communicate with them. I see no reason on earth why you can't be a friend to your children.
I made the comment about befriending our children and I firmly believe it.IMO there is a world of difference in being *friends* ,aren't all parents a friend to a degree,than becoming the best buddies scenario,imo it is then the parental respect in relation to boundaries becomes difficult to put in place as the *child* sees the parent as being on their level or them on the parents level....I raised 3 sons and my niece,each and every one of then knew there was absolutely nothing they could not come to be about,that still applies,we did go shopping,cinema sports etc and as they got older each relationship changed,I had *friends* and thankfully didn't feel the need to rely on my children for *friendship* ,I ensured the same applied to them and actively encouraged them to have a wide circle of friends which they all did.
I did say it and for the record I have a wonderful relationship with each of my children their wives my niece and her partner,I was/am their friend but first and foremost I am their parent, we always have had a very secure relationship always have communicated ,long may it reign.
I did say it and for the record I have a wonderful relationship with each of my children their wives my niece and her partner,I was/am their friend but first and foremost I am their parent, we always have had a very secure relationship always have communicated ,long may it reign.