Sorry to hear this CO. Have heard similar stories of late but yours sounds just about the nightmare scenario.

My o/h does not use Facebook, Twitter, Myspace or forums such as this one. I've spent the last couple of years nagging her to join Facebook (in particular), but she simply isn't interested.

Y'know, you were unhappy way back in late July - so what does that tell you..?
Delete, delete, delete.

 
I'm so sorry she toyed with you like she did.  Keep away from her.  For your own sake.

Hi, Suzy: I edited your post to remove the weird formatting issue (that's why it says "last edited by Lori").  Has something to do with the quoting that you weren't able to do properly.

Comrade: I'm sorry to hear about this.  Having been through a devastating divorce some 15 year ago, I feel for you.  I can understand how you might feel that you never want to be involved to that extent again, and that's OK....for now.  My experience is that you'll find the right person when you aren't looking (sounds like Ditty's experience--she just wanted a friend. )

I have no experience of the FB sort of 'What's my Dumpster doing now' sort of thing, but checked out mine on Friends Reunited and found out he was a slug farmer, no mention of any family, or love interest, and felt quite good. 

Comrade, the one, or the other, is out there, somewhere!

Sometimes we tend to be in despair
when the person we love leaves us,
but the truth is, it's not our loss,
but theirs, for they left the only person
who wouldn't give up on them.


Not my words Comrade ........Makes sense to me though  xxx

Actually that is spot on.    When MrDitty came into my life it was the first time ever that I was really enjoying being single.   Sods Law really!

'Xactly.

'puter still intact at this time



Thank you again everyone, I'm touched that so many of you took the time to reply.


Perhaps I could try computer dating emphsasing that I seek someone who has no internet access, sounds like a plan to me.

 !

When MrD & I decided to make a go of it, cos we had met online (in chatrooms...   forums were less popular then, and the likes of Match.com & Facebook weren't around then)...  we made an agreement...  no more talking to people online.   Cos we knew, from meeting each other, that it would inevitably lead to one of us talking too much to someone else etc.

When I first started coming on the old Ch4 Big Brother forum he wasn't happy at all at first...  in fact it was only cos he used a biker forum & Motley Fool forum that he was ok with any of it.

He's fine about it all now.....     but if I was spending all night in one to one chats on MSN with some bloke...   well to us that is a breach of trust.

We have a golden rule.... it covers all the grey areas...    Don't do anything we would be unhappy with the other one doing.    Its a rule that works really well.

It's a good rule,but does it include snoring?

Sounds a good arrangement Ditty.. and boundaries are important ,good to have them clear from the outset .( and that kind of reinforces what folk are saying to CO about blocking.. that's self-imposed boundaries there! ) 

I wish the interweb/ forums etc  had been a bit more mainstream when I did the big split thing years ago ..not in a "NEXT!!!" way, but just to shoot the breeze a bit, and for diversion really in the wee small hours (and to stop me wearing out the sad song section of my music collection and hiding the phone from myself! ).

I don't mean in a gymnastic kind of way 

I suppose it kinda does...   he can sleep through anything...  he can sleep sitting at his laptop fgs...   so when I snore (little laydeelike snores) he either ignores it...   or if he is awake he thinks its funny to hold my nose & stuff! 

That said ... the rule did come into play when the snoring was really bad...  & when half the problem was his reaction when I would kick/prod/shout at him to stop snoring..      he's better with this part of it now...     he just mumbles "sorry" rolls over.

hahahahaha!    Are you sure!!


I have done the splitting up & being devastated thing before the internet... & then with the wonders of the online world...  & the latter was definitely easier.   Especially cos I was a single mum.  It was a lifeline!

Dunno whether I would like it as much now though...    when I was doing all this, it was a minority of people that went online...     dunno whether it would be better or worse now that its pretty much everyone mingling about.

Comrade be strong - defriend her. It's the only way.

Yeh ok, I'm very bendy

! That sounds surgical!

Quick and relatively painless procedure.

Thanks doc!

My friend has now blocked my acceess to all her sites.


God I still miss her and it hurts but at least I can hopefully process what has happened without constantly causing myself more distress by reading her updates etc.


Just wish I could delete the memories I keep replaying in my head.

Awww.......Comrade.It sounds like that it will be for the best. Perhaps now you can move on.

You will, in time - and they won't have the power to hurt you any more. Onwards and upwards Comrade - bit late, but Happy New Year, I hope it is your best one yet! 

I am so sorry that you are feeling such deep sadness Comrade.
I feel sure that desperately clinging (even for what seems like good reasons) only prolongs the agonies.
I hope that soon the darkest cloud and the heaviest weights will lighten for you. I'm sure they will.
But grieving is not easy. Warm comforting wishes for you.

Sorry to hear you're suffering CO, but sure you've done the right thing, and you will feel better in time

Comrade, you`ve been going through such heartbreak for quite some time now. I truly hope that what your friend has done for you is the first step towards your recovery. It won`t be easy but I hope, in time, you find the strength to get back to being you again. 
I`m sending my warmest wish to you.  

brisket, you have a beautiful way with words.  

awww Scotty    

 Agree's.