Thanks to those who responded to my post. For me to say more about that time is long and complicated to write about so I kept it to a minimum, amazing though that even after years have passed I still felt an emotional pull. Like I said because of this thread I put his name in FB but nothing came up, well around 4/5 men but they weren't him. Apparently there's some good sleuths here lol but thinking about it since posting it's probably not a good idea for me to see if he's still out there somewhere as it might bring up too much again.

DPP you're so right that the hardest thing sometimes is to deal with closure which I've never had at some deep level. Even after marrying hubby and being happy with him for years I had dreams about the other one and everytime it got to the point of him about to tell me what happened I'd wake up which was so frustrating and would affect me for a few hours. I explained all this to hubby and he was always so understanding which took some of the guilt away I had about dreaming about someone else when being happily married. There's a UK and Australian programme I watch called Missing and my heart always go out to those who's loved ones have never returned after years and they always wonder what happened, and why. Some eventually get sad news when a body is found but some never get an answer, the worst thing of all. One of the worst scenarios though must be is when a child goes missing, whether young or older, and years go by without them ever knowing what happened, I've no idea how they cope with that, I couldn't. Anyway sorry to bring this thread down, hope some of you find those you need to find and it leads to a happy outcome.