quote:Originally posted by pretty~cocoa~eyes:
Thanks for this information... I understand him more now.... Im back to supporting him....
PCE!
PCE!
Thanks for the information pepsi, I suspected some of his reactions were due to his dyslexia, I also understand that dyslexic people aren't necessarily unintelligent, though I had no idea how complex dyslexia actually is.....
....he must be finding it very difficult to process everything that is happening at the moment...
Once again, thankyou for starting this thread, it has certainly given me a better understanding of dyslexia!
....he must be finding it very difficult to process everything that is happening at the moment...
Once again, thankyou for starting this thread, it has certainly given me a better understanding of dyslexia!
quote:Originally posted by Mazzystar:quote:Originally posted by subatomic partygirl:
I have to agree with a lot that's said here and what Tupps said; the Dundee model states the spectrum of symptoms that may appear in the various forms (and there are many) of dyslexia but we have no access to which are affecting Freddie's behaviour. In addition, anxiety (and depression) or susceptibility to them are co-morbid with virtually every psychopathological condition known (organic or not).
By attributing all his quirky behaviours to his condition we're in danger of objectifying him as his condition. He's a human being with a wide range of personality traits (good and bad) including those that may be driven by his dyslexia. We can't easily determine which are and which aren't. The 'ahhs and ummm's'? He does that even when eating or drinking or no conversation is occurring. It may be a non-verbal vehicle for expressing his happiness / contentment or it may be just a non-dyslexia associated habit. Who knows? I know a couple of (non-dyslexic) people who do that. It annoys his HMs though and, given his intelligence and undoubted sensitivity to social situations in other ways, he might consider amending it.
I'm under no doubt that his dyslexia will affect his information processing, his receptive and expressive language and that these things have a knock on effect...and that he's a nice enough bloke but, (and he's by no means the only person in there guilty of this), he seems hyperacutely aware of the socio-emotional behaviours of his HMs but doesn't, perhaps, take enough time to consider the impact of his own little foibles on others. In that way he's no different to Marcus, Bea, Lisa, David, Charlie....et al.
Having said all that, last noight's performance by Bea was astonishingly, clinically, ruthless and quite cruel. She seemed (seems) to thrive on capitalising on his weak points to her social advantage. She's intelligent, isn't she? She saw the visible signs of fairly acute and severe distress in him yet continued. Even her re-appearance in the bedroom to console him seemed, to me, more strategic ("Look everyone, I DO care about him. Nice me!") than truly compassionate.
She's not a very nice person, and, as Siavash said, Freddie needs to recognise this (rather than cling to his imitial impression of her being a soulamte) and learn to detach himself emotionally from her. I hope that this morning he has gained a little clarity and resilience and feels better. Wasn't nice to see any human being like he was last night.
Excellent post
I too, think that post was excellent.
quote:Originally posted by pepsi:
If people don't like him because they simply DON'T like him that's fineNo-one with a disability (hidden or visible) would ask that you like them just because they are disabled
I'm just pointing out that some aspects of his coping strategies although irritating are HIS way of coping, and Bea drove him to the point of a panic attack almost.
I thought your original post was really interesting and informative. It explains such a lot. Thank you for posting it.
This, for me, has been a really informative and interesting thread as my daughter, at the ripe old age of 28, has just been diagnosed as being dyslexic and dyspraxic. She has often struggled with things over the years but she got reasonably good grades/results at school and her spelling is impecable so we never suspected that her other problems (mainly organisational and co-ordination) were due to dyslexia/dyspraxia as we did not realise that their was such a wide spectrum of symptoms. Her assessment showed that she has a high level of intelligence but there are some things which she finds so very difficult and she never realised why. Learning to drive was the last straw as she struggled with the co-ordination and it was at this stage it was suggested that she could be dyspraxic and as she is doing a part time University course she was able to arrange to be tested thru Uni. Not only did the assessment show that she was dyspraxic but also dyslexic which came as a great surprise. I feel so sad that not only have we as parents failed her in this respect but also that the Education system never suspected that her struggles were due to a recognised learning disability and that she may have benefitted from help at an earlier age and perhaps even achieved more. To those people whose families have been diagnosed with this condition then take heart that at least they will get the help they need from an earlier age than my daughter did and for those who suspect that their children are struggling with stuff which other kids seem to master ok, maybe look into whether there is a reason behind it.