Bloody hell! My best friend and I work in the same organisation. We made an agreement around 3 years ago that if we heard of anyone talking about the other one behind their back we would tell each other.

Well I heard (from a very reliable source) that a manager, who she holds in high regard, has been bad mouthing her behind her back to other members of staff. I sat on it for weeks trying to decide whether or not to tell her because I know she trusts him and also that she's very sensitive and would be quite upset about it. But I also didn't want her trusting him and telling her private information when he bad mouths her to other members of staff and isn't generally trustworthy.

I did tell her months ago that I didn't trust him, as I've heard him bad-mouthing other members of staff behind their backs - even his favourite colleagues that he has managed for years!

Well I've just told her and now I'm wondering whether I've done the right thing. She's now really very upset!

I love her to bits and couldn't live with myself having this information and not telling her while she makes herself vulnerable in her discussions with him.

I'm wondering now if I should have kept my mouth shut, but I would feel like a traitor for not telling her as we're so close and I know her family etc etc.

Bloody hell! I'd rather not have been put in this position.