Characteristics of other family members.

looks .... behaviour .... mannerisms, etc.

It's quite uncanny sometimes

Hiya Poker, if you take away the family angle for a moment, do you see anything else...look at it this way, say you're doing something then you look up, and see your child walking past you, and you follow her with your eyes and keep looking at her, so what would you see for instance?

It's not a catch question of any sort, just something which got me wondering if parents when they glance at the child, and just keep looking, what is their reason for doing so, as they must be thinking of something? See what I mean?

I know what you mean, I often used to look at mine and wonder what they will be/ will become...other stuff too, that I just can't recall right now, but yes, my thoughts used to trail after what I imagined them growing up like

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Originally posted by Gel:
I know what you mean, I often used to look at mine and wonder what they will be/ will become...other stuff too, that I just can't recall right now, but yes, my thoughts used to trail after what I imagined them growing up like

That's what I mean, the lucid moment. Have to go now to pay a bill, but will be back for more of this, and thanks to both of you for replying, as it's given me an insight, which I don't think ever happened to me, that glance from my parent, and her glances usually meant I was in trouble. But I never saw her just sit still with a far away look on her face until much later in life, but then it didn't count.

Joy.

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Originally posted by The Singing Ringing Tree:
Joy.

Ditto.... coupled with love, sometimes pain... worry... pride also...

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Originally posted by *Di*:

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Originally posted by The Singing Ringing Tree:
Joy.

Ditto.... coupled with love, sometimes pain... worry... pride also...

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Originally posted by The Singing Ringing Tree:
Joy.

Joy for that moment, then it passes, or Joy forever, with no other fleeting thoughts?

When they were babies....often wondering what they were thinking.

When they were a bit older....look at how clever and beautiful they are.

When they were teenagers....Why oh why so much make-up, you are beautiful enough without it....what does she look like in that outfit

Now...I hope they are happy without to many worries.


Difficult question Apricot

Here's something extra for you. When we were out doing what we had to, everyone was scurrying about, as people do, but on the way home, I saw something interesting. a man was talking to a female and a short distance away from the man, stood a young boy with the most impressive face of thought I've seen in a child. He didn't have to speak, as as his face did the speaking. The man talking to the female didn't see that though. The boy may been fed up waiting, but it didn't show on his face, he was showing something much deeper, and wish I had taken a photo of him but there wasn't time.

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Originally posted by Syd:
When they were babies....often wondering what they were thinking.

When they were a bit older....look at how clever and beautiful they are.

When they were teenagers....Why oh why so much make-up, you are beautiful enough without it....what does she look like in that outfit

Now...I hope they are happy without to many worries.


Difficult question Apricot

Hi Syd, I expect they'll think the same when they have their own family. I think you've probably answered the question, families think of families or tend to, in their lucid moments? That would match what others here have said. But, say you're away from the family and walking down the road from work, would your lucid moment be of the family or of something else? The trouble with thinking is it takes you into other realms.

I often wonder what she thinks of me

That probably sounds a bit daft

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I often wonder what she thinks of me

That probably sounds a bit daft

Not at all daft, angel, and you could ask her?

I look at my daughter and think "I didn't do a bad job being a Mum did I?"

1. he's so cute
2. what is he thinking??
3. OMG I made that!
4. Is he 6 weeks old already? wowser

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Originally posted by apricot:

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Originally posted by angelicarwen:
I often wonder what she thinks of me

That probably sounds a bit daft

Not at all daft, angel, and you could ask her?

Ahhh she has only just turned one , all I would get as an answer is 'Mama Good girl' Bless her.

I just wonder if she loves me like I love her

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Originally posted by BeerBelle:
1. he's so cute
2. what is he thinking??
3. OMG I made that!
4. Is he 6 weeks old already? wowser

Aww It goes so quickly doesn't it

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Originally posted by BeerBelle:
1. he's so cute
2. what is he thinking??
3. OMG I made that!
4. Is he 6 weeks old already? wowser

those were the days.....enjoy every moment of them

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Originally posted by angelicarwen:

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Originally posted by BeerBelle:
1. he's so cute
2. what is he thinking??
3. OMG I made that!
4. Is he 6 weeks old already? wowser

Aww It goes so quickly doesn't it

Yes, (and can you keep a secret?)... if he is with the mother in law i think - "get your hands off my little boy and give him back to his mummy". i think it, but i don't say it, obviously.

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Originally posted by BeerBelle:

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Originally posted by angelicarwen:

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Originally posted by BeerBelle:
1. he's so cute
2. what is he thinking??
3. OMG I made that!
4. Is he 6 weeks old already? wowser

Aww It goes so quickly doesn't it

Yes, (and can you keep a secret?)... if he is with the mother in law i think - "get your hands off my little boy and give him back to his mummy". i think it, but i don't say it, obviously.

I thought that with everyone.

She decides herself now who she wants to go to. It's still always Mummy

beauty, in its truest meaning

When I look at my eldest son, I see a gentle heart with loads of patience, when I look at my youngest I imagine the day when he will kiss me or cuddle me. I also feel blessed.

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When you look at your child, what do you see?

I see someone they told me would never exist...a strong, intelligent, healthy and happy young woman.

When she was six months old, a consultant paediatrician told us that she would be permanently brain damaged, and we shouldn't expect her to walk, talk, read or write properly, and she would never be able to live independently.

I hope he doesn't retire in the next year or two...I want to take her into his office when she graduates and put her degree down on his desk.

I would pay to see that.............

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When you look at your child, what do you see?

I see someone they told me would never exist...a strong, intelligent, healthy and happy young woman.

When she was six months old, a consultant paediatrician told us that she would be permanently brain damaged, and we shouldn't expect her to walk, talk, read or write properly, and she would never be able to live independently.

I hope he doesn't retire in the next year or two...I want to take her into his office when she graduates and put her degree down on his desk.

what a wonderful story.

I look at mine now aged 29, 27 and 26 ............sometimes I worry for them, often I'm proud of them but I do have an overwhelming love for all of them. it's not all hearts and flowers I'm pretty sure I sometimes irritate the life out of them but overall ............I have so much to be grateful for and ..............my grand children - well ......................don't even get me started - I could give you a 20,000 word dissertation .....no one has grandchildren as wonderful as me.

My grandchildren.............. are everything to me..... I get where you come from, but there are not the words, are there???..

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My grandchildren.............. are everything to me..... I get where you come from, but there are not the words, are there???..

do you think grandchildren are even more precious than children? my mum seems beside herself with joy over my bab. or is it just different?

I have no idea how to explain it hun.... I thought nothing could equal the love I have for my 2 girls.... then the grandkids came along....

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Originally posted by *Di*:
I have no idea how to explain it hun.... I thought nothing could equal the love I have for my 2 girls.... then the grandkids came along....

I know .......it's so hard to put into words isn't it?

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Originally posted by Sarum:

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When you look at your child, what do you see?

I see someone they told me would never exist...a strong, intelligent, healthy and happy young woman.

When she was six months old, a consultant paediatrician told us that she would be permanently brain damaged, and we shouldn't expect her to walk, talk, read or write properly, and she would never be able to live independently.

I hope he doesn't retire in the next year or two...I want to take her into his office when she graduates and put her degree down on his desk.

Hi Sarum, know how you feel, as something similar happened to me, but on last day of school, when the head teacher laughed at my ambitions, but you know, I wasn't the failure she thought I was. Many years later I asked my friend to find her for me, and go to her and tell her she was wrong. My friend found out where she was, and I asked her to go there, but by the time that happened, the ex-head teacher had died.

Don't waste any more time Sarum, go now, and show that consultant how much your daughter has progressed. Best wishes.

Thank you for all of your replies which I found very interesting.

Am I the only one that looks at mine and thinks what the hell have I done to deserve this? lol

When my four kids were children I would look at them and think they look even more Italian than I do which used to make me chuckle

I look at my children - it's more than looking - it's almost drinking them in with my eyes. I want to commit every feature to memory - my daughters large green eyes with their dark lashes and the peachy little bum I could still take a bite out of even though she's 13 LOL, my son's gorgeous creamy skin and wide expressive mouth with it's quirky smile...

Sometimes I peer in and see bits of me and my family and their father's. At nearly 15 my son is a clone of his father from the neck down. Most disconcerting!

I like watching them sleep and I am still amazed that someone like me produced two people like them. I hope when I look at them that I've given them enough confidence and sense of their self worth to believe they can be what they want to be. They both have enough smarts but it takes more than that to realise your ambitions in life - whatever they may be.

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Originally posted by Sheep In a Jeep:
Am I the only one that looks at mine and thinks what the hell have I done to deserve this? lol

LOL....nope! It's all part and parcel isn't it?

I look at my 4 children and feel pain and sorrow that I put them all through so much confusion. They love me and understand, but it will never go away.

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Originally posted by pussycatj:
I look at my 4 children and feel pain and sorrow that I put them all through so much confusion. They love me and understand, but it will never go away.

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Originally posted by pussycatj:
I look at my 4 children and feel pain and sorrow that I put them all through so much confusion. They love me and understand, but it will never go away.

Ask them PJ - they will tell you that you are the most wonderful person in the world

I used to look at my 5 big healthy lads and think, aren't I so lucky to be the Father of those.
The feeling of pride is priceless.