Here is the link to my original thread from 4 nights ago, about my slightly flaky friend who is a good pal, who I get on with well, and she is interesting and kind and generous, and we go back 35 odd years..., but she rarely contacts me, and regularly does not return my texts and voicemails, and I have to contact her 3 or 4 times sometimes before I get to speak to her, as she rarely calls or texts back.
http://gagajoyjoy.com/eve/foru...2461/m/740104522/p/1
Well..... After waiting and waiting for confirmation of what day she wanted to meet this week, (and it went 4 days PAST the day she said she would contact me,) I actually thought 'bollocks' I will ring her and ask her are we still meeting this week or not?!'
I KNOW I shouldn't have, but I thought I will give it ONE last shot... rather than be waiting on tenterhooks...and if I get no response, or she says she can't meet at the moment, I will leave a message or say 'you're obviously busy just now, maybe it's best if you get back to ME after the whitsun holiday; I will wait to hear from you...'
As I said, she was meant to have contacted me over last weekend to let me know which day she wanted to meet this week and she didn't. (But by wednesday morning she still hadn't texted or phoned...)
So anyway I phoned her Wednesday morning and said, 'hi, is everything OK? I haven't heard from you,' and she said 'oh yeah hi, sorry I haven't phoned you, but it's been Kate's birthday this week, and my family have been staying and I have had works meetings and I have been on a course at work, and the week has flown by... blah blah blah...' So I said 'ok fine...' And she said 'anyway, Friday should be OK, is that OK with you?' And I said, yes fine...' and we aranged to meet at 10am at M and S cafe on Friday. (today...)
Then at 9pm Thursday (yesterday,) she texted me and said 'something has come up, so I can't come sorry. Hope you have a good half term...' And that was it!
I was so pissed off. I thought 'how bloody annoying' .. She didn't even say ANYthing about whether she would contact me or WHEN we could re-arrange it for or anything. I thought 'seems she isn't interested after all, or she wouldn't have cancelled with such a short message ..'
So anyway I texted her within about 10 minutes and said 'thanks for letting me know. Tell you what though, just let me know when you're ready to meet up again, because I don't want to keep badgering you with texts and phone calls; especially when you seem so busy and frazzled...so I think it's best if I wait for 'you' to get in touch with me now.... Take care and have a good half term, and as I said I'll wait for you to contact me. Love 'Pixie' xxx
I was really fed up and disappointed. Thing is, she is a cool pal and lots of fun and a good laff, but USELESS at keeping in touch and it is almost always me, as I said the other day. And I was beginning to wonder if she was not too bothered about meeting anymore...
Well, an hour later, I got a text from her with a 'sad smiley' saying 'oh I'm so sorry if I was grumpy, or you're pissed off with me for not getting back in touch.. It's just been mad this week. Yes of course I'll contact you after half term. sorry. Take care .. xxx'
So I think my text may have prickled her conscience, although when I said she seemed frazzled, I didn't mean she seemd grumpy; I meant she seems busy and stressed and 'run off her feet,' so I won't add to her stress further by bugging her with phone calls and texts,'
So I texted her back and said that... 'Hi, thanks for texting. No I didn't think you had been grumpy, just that you seem busy and stressed and 'run off your feet,' so I just meant that it would be best if you contact me when you're ready, so I don't add to your stress further by bugging you with phone calls and texts,'
Then I said 'sorry if you thought I meant that you were grumpy LOL,' and I made light of it... but I finished off by saying 'anyway, I look forward to hearing from you after half term. Let me know as soon as you're ready to meet up again..'
SO the ball is fixed firmly in her court now... So I am pleased that she appeared to feel a wee bit guilty, and that I left the ball in her court... Hopefully she DOES contact me. I have made up my mind that I will definately wait for her to contact me now... it is about time she made a wee bit more effort; especially after being so lax with the contact for so long...
Thanks for all your advice the other night folks. Just thought I would update you as I promised I would.
http://gagajoyjoy.com/eve/foru...2461/m/740104522/p/1
Well..... After waiting and waiting for confirmation of what day she wanted to meet this week, (and it went 4 days PAST the day she said she would contact me,) I actually thought 'bollocks' I will ring her and ask her are we still meeting this week or not?!'
I KNOW I shouldn't have, but I thought I will give it ONE last shot... rather than be waiting on tenterhooks...and if I get no response, or she says she can't meet at the moment, I will leave a message or say 'you're obviously busy just now, maybe it's best if you get back to ME after the whitsun holiday; I will wait to hear from you...'
As I said, she was meant to have contacted me over last weekend to let me know which day she wanted to meet this week and she didn't. (But by wednesday morning she still hadn't texted or phoned...)
So anyway I phoned her Wednesday morning and said, 'hi, is everything OK? I haven't heard from you,' and she said 'oh yeah hi, sorry I haven't phoned you, but it's been Kate's birthday this week, and my family have been staying and I have had works meetings and I have been on a course at work, and the week has flown by... blah blah blah...' So I said 'ok fine...' And she said 'anyway, Friday should be OK, is that OK with you?' And I said, yes fine...' and we aranged to meet at 10am at M and S cafe on Friday. (today...)
Then at 9pm Thursday (yesterday,) she texted me and said 'something has come up, so I can't come sorry. Hope you have a good half term...' And that was it!
I was so pissed off. I thought 'how bloody annoying' .. She didn't even say ANYthing about whether she would contact me or WHEN we could re-arrange it for or anything. I thought 'seems she isn't interested after all, or she wouldn't have cancelled with such a short message ..'
So anyway I texted her within about 10 minutes and said 'thanks for letting me know. Tell you what though, just let me know when you're ready to meet up again, because I don't want to keep badgering you with texts and phone calls; especially when you seem so busy and frazzled...so I think it's best if I wait for 'you' to get in touch with me now.... Take care and have a good half term, and as I said I'll wait for you to contact me. Love 'Pixie' xxx
I was really fed up and disappointed. Thing is, she is a cool pal and lots of fun and a good laff, but USELESS at keeping in touch and it is almost always me, as I said the other day. And I was beginning to wonder if she was not too bothered about meeting anymore...
Well, an hour later, I got a text from her with a 'sad smiley' saying 'oh I'm so sorry if I was grumpy, or you're pissed off with me for not getting back in touch.. It's just been mad this week. Yes of course I'll contact you after half term. sorry. Take care .. xxx'
So I think my text may have prickled her conscience, although when I said she seemed frazzled, I didn't mean she seemd grumpy; I meant she seems busy and stressed and 'run off her feet,' so I won't add to her stress further by bugging her with phone calls and texts,'
So I texted her back and said that... 'Hi, thanks for texting. No I didn't think you had been grumpy, just that you seem busy and stressed and 'run off your feet,' so I just meant that it would be best if you contact me when you're ready, so I don't add to your stress further by bugging you with phone calls and texts,'
Then I said 'sorry if you thought I meant that you were grumpy LOL,' and I made light of it... but I finished off by saying 'anyway, I look forward to hearing from you after half term. Let me know as soon as you're ready to meet up again..'
SO the ball is fixed firmly in her court now... So I am pleased that she appeared to feel a wee bit guilty, and that I left the ball in her court... Hopefully she DOES contact me. I have made up my mind that I will definately wait for her to contact me now... it is about time she made a wee bit more effort; especially after being so lax with the contact for so long...
Thanks for all your advice the other night folks. Just thought I would update you as I promised I would.
Now the suspense of waiting to see if she does get in touch. 
Yes you may well have a point there, and this is why I wasn't nasty or arsey and didn't wanna fall out at all... but at this stage, as many have suggested, I *HAVE * to wait for her to contact me now. There is no reason I can think of why I should contact her next now...
