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Originally posted by Dame_Ann_Average:
If she recieving housing benefits or pension credits, she can claim up to £14500, or at least that was the case last year. if she's no insuarance she can or could claim this. Best if one of her relations goes to the job centre, also there is an ex serviceman's allowance if he served in the forcse. I'm not up to date with all this, but this was the case when my dad died last year.

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Originally posted by Aimee:

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Originally posted by Dame_Ann_Average:
If she recieving housing benefits or pension credits, she can claim up to £14500, or at least that was the case last year. if she's no insuarance she can or could claim this. Best if one of her relations goes to the job centre, also there is an ex serviceman's allowance if he served in the forcse. I'm not up to date with all this, but this was the case when my dad died last year.

she is, thanks for that do you know why she can't take the money out of her a/c, they said its because they pay in advance, i always thought they paid in arrears

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Originally posted by paace:
How awful for the poor woman. Surely she's entitled to take her share out of the joint account. I know I would and to hell with them.

You may get some good advice from some of the Agencies on here from their websites.

Link

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Originally posted by Miss_S:
Has she no family Aimee?

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Originally posted by Dame_Ann_Average:

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Originally posted by Aimee:

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Originally posted by Dame_Ann_Average:
If she recieving housing benefits or pension credits, she can claim up to £14500, or at least that was the case last year. if she's no insuarance she can or could claim this. Best if one of her relations goes to the job centre, also there is an ex serviceman's allowance if he served in the forcse. I'm not up to date with all this, but this was the case when my dad died last year.

she is, thanks for that do you know why she can't take the money out of her a/c, they said its because they pay in advance, i always thought they paid in arrears

My parents pensions were separate, so I'm assuming they have theirs together. She may have to wait a few weeks until it's sorted. I really hope she's ok for money at the minute, it can be stressful. Sorry I can't help give you more info, because of the different circumstances. Hope your neighbour is ok, and gets sorted soo, Stressful enough time for her without additional worry!

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Originally posted by paace:
How awful for the poor woman. Surely she's entitled to take her share out of the joint account. I know I would and to hell with them.

You may get some good advice from some of the Agencies on here from their websites.

Link

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Originally posted by Aimee:


she's got no money, i've told her to go and take her share of the pension, what they going to do shoot her, but she says she's too afraid to take the money

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Originally posted by Dame_Ann_Average:

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Originally posted by Aimee:


she's got no money, i've told her to go and take her share of the pension, what they going to do shoot her, but she says she's too afraid to take the money

I'm sure if she takes her share of the pension there's not much they can do about it, but I know it's such a pain in the butt to get it sorted. I know it's illegal to draw pension after a persons deceased, but if she's not taking her husbands money I doubt if they can do anything. I'm sorry I can't help your neighbour more

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Originally posted by Aimee:

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Originally posted by Miss_S:
Has she no family Aimee?

a few, but they don't seem to want to help her

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Originally posted by Aimee:

thanks for your advice, i feel the same, wish i could help her more, but i've no idea how it works, like you say, surely she should be allowed to take her share

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Originally posted by Trollop:
I always end up having sex with someone at a funerals. Not during the ceremony..after..is that wrong?

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Originally posted by Ms Golightly:

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Originally posted by Trollop:
I always end up having sex with someone at a funerals. Not during the ceremony..after..is that wrong?

As long as it's not the corpse ... go for it

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Originally posted by Ms Golightly:
Hello Aimee

Try here

This is Age Concern for your area and would probably be the best place for your neighbour to get info and support. I would say she should try to access independent advocacy, but it looks like they only offer that for hospitals and care homes.

You are being a very good friend and neighbour - she's lucky to have you

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Originally posted by Miss_S:

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Originally posted by Aimee:

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Originally posted by Miss_S:
Has she no family Aimee?

a few, but they don't seem to want to help her

That makes my blood boil, it really does

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Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:
Another thing you could try is your local NHS PCT.

They are given an annual budget for "bereavement services", which as well as councilling and stuff should include advice & guidance of what needs to be done in the first few days after the death of a next of kin, paperwork, undertakers, how to do it etc.

In my area (Essex) we had a bereavement office in our local hospital which was purely for the administration side of dealing with the death of a loved one. It may be different in your area.

If you ring your local PCT (no. should be in the front of your phone book), they should be able to point you in the right direction.

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Originally posted by Aimee:

mine too, she does all her own gardening *which is alot* and yet she has a grandson that works for the council gardening team

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Originally posted by Trollop:

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Originally posted by Ms Golightly:

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Originally posted by Trollop:
I always end up having sex with someone at a funerals. Not during the ceremony..after..is that wrong?

As long as it's not the corpse ... go for it

No! God no....but last time was my cousin. So its just as bad...

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Originally posted by Jet Blue:
what about the Citizens advice Bureau. If they cannot help they should be able to point her in the direction of somebody who can give her the most appropriate advice.

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Originally posted by Aimee:

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Originally posted by Jet Blue:
what about the Citizens advice Bureau. If they cannot help they should be able to point her in the direction of somebody who can give her the most appropriate advice.

think she is being sent all round the houses at the mo, just wish her family would help her more

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Originally posted by Charli:
your neighbour's wife's husband

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Originally posted by Jet Blue:

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Originally posted by Aimee:

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Originally posted by Jet Blue:
what about the Citizens advice Bureau. If they cannot help they should be able to point her in the direction of somebody who can give her the most appropriate advice.

think she is being sent all round the houses at the mo, just wish her family would help her more

It Could be that her family are grief stricken but usually in cases like this people families together in their grief and help each other out. What a shame she is having to turn to people outside her family at a time like this.

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Originally posted by Trollop:
I always end up having sex with someone at a funerals. Not during the ceremony..after..is that wrong?

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If her family isn't helping, what will happen when she dies? Poor woman.

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Originally posted by Aimee:

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Originally posted by Jet Blue:

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Originally posted by Aimee:

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Originally posted by Jet Blue:
what about the Citizens advice Bureau. If they cannot help they should be able to point her in the direction of somebody who can give her the most appropriate advice.

think she is being sent all round the houses at the mo, just wish her family would help her more

It Could be that her family are grief stricken but usually in cases like this people families together in their grief and help each other out. What a shame she is having to turn to people outside her family at a time like this.

it is a shame, they are a lovely couple, the day after he died her grandaughter asked her to baby sit her children and she did, they are under 5 *2 of them*, yet they won't help her to sort things out she's been quoted £2,500 for the funeral