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Originally posted by tupps:
Calling all amateur dream analysts...
If a male friend texts you and said they dreamt of you last night and you were riding a horse and stealing the hats off dwarves.. then they text the next day and tell you they have had a very similar dream, but this time you were on a motorcycle and playing polo with watermelons... what does this mean..
Hiya Tupps, it's me. I think you know I can't resist a reply to a thread like this one. I'm losing my cherry on this particular forum, fellow FM's, so be gentle those who don't know me! If those who do know me will vouch for me, I'd be grateful, because I am well aware that 'new' posting FM's on here have caused a lot of genuine concern of late. Enough said on that issue, I hope.
Freudians are likely to tell you that dreams represent specific archetypal urges and desires.
Jungians are more likely to tell you that they represent the underlying subconscious. That they are a mechanism for the subconscious to bring issues to conscious attention that your conscious mind has not fully faced and set to rest.
I am of the opinion that dreams are a combination of those things plus something else that is far more mundane. Firstly, I see them as the mind filing away and making sense of the day's thoughts and issues, which can be just insignificant consideration of the things we saw, heard and experienced. Secondly, the management of issues that prick the conscience or require consideration. And, finally, the wandering of the mind in pursuing the 'what if's' of life.
Hence, some things in a dream will represent archetypal ideas, some will be concerns and or wishes entertained about what might be and some will just be wanderings through things that crossed the mind and don't 'mean' very much at all. Separating one from the others is not always straightforward, you really need to know the person but there are some things I think it is fairly easy to 'suggest' from what you have described.
Before considering the specifics of your friend's dreams though, the fact that he chose to tell you about them, twice, is significant.
The person or persons to whom we confide the details of our dreams is often important, because they tend to be those connected in some way with our thoughts in the dream. Hence, we may well be seeking their input on what we may only suspect the dream is telling us about our relationship with them.
Of course, it could just be that we trust the person to whom we confide our dreams and just want their view but only by knowing yourself and the other person can you really say if it is just that or more about your relationship with each other.
In this instance, since you were the subject of the dream, you were bound to be one of the first people he spoke to about it.
However, it is still significant he did that because he could have kept it to himself but didn't, twice. He is trying to say something, if you ask me, even if he does not realise it.
I suggest he is having the 'what if' dream and seeking your view on it, even if he isn't consciously aware he is doing that. I'll tell you why I suspect that....
In terms of the dream imagery, women riding horses is a fairly standard image of female sexuality and power but it's also one of control and strength. A woman riding a horse has a powerful animal under her control. It's likely he sees you as being a dominant woman (he obviously does know you :-D) and is according you a high level of status, as a woman. Status as a woman, in male terms, is a measure of male interest in a woman.
Taking hats from dwarves suggests seeing you as having the power of allure over men that are, given the diminutive height he gave the men in the dream, less in 'stature' than he sees you.
The height issue is likely to be a dreaming 'metaphor' for the difference in status he accords you, up high on a horse, and him, a number of dwarves losing their hats to you.
The second imagery of riding a motorcylce, playing a game with watermelons! Hmmm, do I really need to suggest anything for that one???? A woman in control of an even more powerful thing to ride than a horse and playing with, er watermelons! He seems to be according you higher status than in the first dream and I note that this time he didn't mention any men in the second dream. I suspect that having told you the first dream and received no indication from you of recognition of its suggestion, he may have witheld the male characters from the second dream. They may have been even less 'stature' than the male images in the first dream or maybe he didn't see any men in the dream. Both suggest he's diminished his own status in comparison to yours tbh.
I suggest he's thinking thoughts about you but that doesn't mean he would ever act on them or take them seriously. We are dealing with dreams here and they are 'what if's' and musings. I think most people 'dream' about other people on occasion, we are all animals in one sense of our nature. It doesn't mean any of us would ever consider acting on those musings and dreams.
I think it's also fair to add that he could just have nodded off watching the Badminton horse trials and when it finished a program about the circus came on next!
That's the trouble with dreams, they're very much open to interpretation.
Whatever, I think he looks up to you. 
nah he hasn't said he wished he was the beast betwixt my thighs.. yet.. 
